To be hurt by family going away together?

[Illneverbepromqueen]

I have an older sister and she’s married with children.

I’m pathetic, single and childless.

Each year my sister and her family go away to a seaside town. My parents also book to go to the same location at the same time.

Because they don’t physically stay in the same holiday rental they claim that it’s not a family holiday and just a coincidence

• basically their loophole to not invite me.

AIBU to be so hurt by this?

You know what? Even if they think you don't want to go, even if they think you live a glamorous single life and a beachside hotel would be lame for you: they should still ask. They should still say, we want you there, though we understand if you might not want to come.

And I'm really, really sorry they don't.

You're not pathetic, though I understand why you feel like you do. Instead of feeling sad, can you feel a little mad? I find anger burns through the sadness, sometimes.

Because you sound wry, and self-aware (if hard on yourself), and warm. That usually makes for good company.

In sum, you're not pathetic. They're being at best thoughtless jackasses for not inviting you. And you should plan something spectacular and glamorouseven just one night in a fantastic city hotel with a good bathtuband treat yourself.

(Or tell them how you feel, if you think it would make a difference. Depends entirely whether they're thoughtless jackasses or thorough jackasses.)

Do you know if your sister wants your parents there?
It sounds a bit like she may book it and then they just "happen" to book to the same place. Is that possible?