Ok I might not have worded the title great.
In short my ex DP left me 3 weeks ago if you’ve seen my previous thread. I have a DS4 from previous relationship and me and ex DP have a 10 month old together.
He walked out without warning saying he didn’t feel the same and needed time to think. Throughout the 3 weeks he has been saying he is still thinking etc, we’ve had minimal contact and he has called round twice after work to see DD. Twice. In 3 weeks. He hasn’t once offered to collect her, asked to see her etc I’ve only had the odd text asking how she is.
My issue now is he has contacted me asking when he can have her over night, I explained to him I’m in absolutely no rush for that as he’s never got up with her in the night or morning, and as of yet he’s never even had a full day with her or taken her out alone. I said spending time with her is more important.
I’m now being told I don’t get to dictate as she’s half his and he is entitled to 50/50. Part of me wants to say well you haven’t cared about 50/50 while you’ve ignored us for 3 weeks ...
but AIBU? Do I automatically have to start sending her over night? She’s only ever had one night away from me I don’t see how it would be in her best interests