To send him a text?

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Back story is dated for 3 months, been split up for 3 months, work together.

So things are still a bit awkward, we barely speak and he looks like he’d rather be anywhere than near me. We didn’t row or have a massive break up it just ended because we wanted different things. Can I send him a text asking if we can get back to being more friendly at work? Making it clear I expect nothing else and nothing outside of work I’m just sick of feeling awkward around him in work every day.

I don’t want to talk to him about it in work with other people around so thought text would be the best way to approach? Or shall I just leave things as they are?

Leave things. And be as breezy and normal around him at work as you can. Because let’s not kid yourself: sending that message signals loud and clear how much care.

cochineal7 is completely right. Definitely no text. Just carry on as you are.

I'd leave things as they are. If he doesn't want to be more friendly ultimately there's not a lot you can do and a text is unlikely to change his mind.
Just behave as you normally would with any other colleague.

Oh does it? I’m genuinely not wanting to get back with him or anything just wanted to see if things could be a bit better at work. I thought since we’d been split up for as long as we were together things might have gone back to being ok by now.

You've been given sound advice here so either take the advice you've asked for or just do what you want, but don't keep asking the same question.

@joystir59 I didn’t ask the same question I asked if it’d come across like I cared because I genuinely don’t care about wanting to be with him just making things better at work

If you're fine with working with him and he's the one who seems to feel awkward, why is it for you to make him feel better about the situation? This is the very definition of emotional labour. Fuck it. Carry on as you are, be breezy and normal, and let him deal with his own emotions.

At work, he is just your colleague. You don't have to be friends in the office.

Provided it's not actually affecting the quality of your work or his, don't make an issue out of it by texting.