To feel this overwhelmed with broodiness?

[applepie52]

Hi everyone, this is my first post! (Not sure ive posted this in the right section on here) My partner and I are both 28, been together 4 years and childless. I've been incredibly broody since I was 14 but I had never found the right man until meeting my partner. He is also super broody but we are currently renting and planned to buy a house before having a child. We also have around £3k debt that we pay off £150 a month. We both work full time but don't have much money left over and I know that having a child would be a struggle financially.

The problem is I can't get this broodiness to go away! I even bloody dream about having a baby! My old school friends all seem to be pregnant. Everywhere I go there are babies and children. I even find myself feeling jealous quite often which sounds so pathetic.

Does anyone have any advice on this? I don't think we'll be financially ready to have a baby for another few years but the broody feeling is killing me. I don't think I can wait that long! Am I being silly by feeling like this when I know I can't have a child yet?

Focus on paying that £3,000 off and tell yourself that you'll start trying when you've done so.

Take a deep breath and focus on a sensible plan. Pay off your debt, save money, buy a home, get married and focus on your careers for a few years. You'll be very glad you did.

Build a life and financial security first. Having a baby is hard enough when you don’t have to worry about money. You’ve plenty of time and it’ll be so worth it

Use the broodiness to get your affairs in order for your future children. Pay off the debt, get married, get on the property ladder THEN start ttc.

The idea everyone waits until they are debt free and home owners to reproduce is hilarious. Did you know that credit card debt won't stop you getting a mortgage? Move it to a 0% card if you haven't already. Keep paying it off but don't wait to get started buying a house. Find a good IFA, they'll find you a good mortgage deal and help you sort out your credit report etc. Good luck!

Ps definitely get married, no need to spend loads, registry office on a weekday if you and DP agree! Before buying a house together and definitely before TTC. You need the legal protection.

At the very least, pay off your debt.

I'm not at all far off your age, similar situation of school friends etc, pregnant or with young families. I personally regret not listening to my heart, we put off starting our family due to, career, money, getting house issues. I haven't any advice around broodiness going away, but would say that you might make a plan, regarding the debt as an obstacle and how you might decide when is the right time to try for a baby. In my case if I'd done that younger I feel I might have had more time to have children as were facing a long and draining process. We wanted to be financially comfortable, which we are, but will have to take on debt anyway for fertility treatment. I only say this because I wish I'd seriously considered this scenario earlier.

@applepie52 I had to comment on this post as I've been there. My broodiness was so bad that I went into a GP and begged them to put me on medication or do something that would take it away. She very sympathetically laughed at me. It was affecting my life and my MH. What we did was we made a 3 point plan. The top things we needed to do before we could TTC. And we did them. As soon as we finished the list we got my implant removed. For us they were: 1) Buy a bigger 'forever' home. 2) Pay off all outstanding debt (apart from mortgage and student loan). 3) Get a promotion so I knew I had a stable career to return to. (We were already married and had been together since I was 19 so we were stable and happy.) My GP told me to 'have a sensible conversation with my DH re timescales' that did help - having a list to tick off and a target timeline to meet. I'm now 16 weeks pregnant...