Baby fell

[helppleasenewmum]

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My 13 week old just rolled straight off the sofa and fell onto his head. I am a mess. He cried immediately and for about a min after. I'm just sat holding him now and he's doing little sobs :-( I cant feel any bumps etc on his head and he hasn't been sick (I gave him a feed as I was comforting him and he latched on fine).

I'm worried sick :-( I love him to bits and now I feel like the worlds worst mum. I only put him down to take my coat off and I just couldn't catch him in time.

I think most mums do this. He will probably be fine. see how he is in a few minutes and then decide what to do

Everyone I know has done this at one point. He will be ok.

Oh love, please don't worry overly. It happens to the best to us. Seriously. Most of us have been there. You may feel better if you get reassurance from a doc at a and e, and I'm not a medical professional but honestly babies and children generally are not as fragile as they seem. You're not a bad mum.

He is so little I would get him checked over by a doctor. Sure he is fine, but best to be sure. This happens, dd1 rolled onto a hard floor from.the bed when I dozed off breastfeeding due to exhaustion. I woke to feeling her leaving my arms but couldn't catch her in time. She was fine.

Everybody does this at some point. Just keep an eye on him for any unusual behaviour or if he gets a big lump where he hit. I'm sure he'll be fine.

He's sat laughing now and playing with me like nothing happened :-( feel so guilty. I've checked his pupil response and that's all fine. Feels ridiculous saying this all as I'm a nurse but paediatrics are not my thing at all! I've no clue when it comes to babies 😩

When I took my 4m into A&E for a head bump, the nurse asked if it was a roll. It wasn’t but she said it was super common and they’d always rather they were checked out when so small.

Oh cross post. You’ll have more knowledge than most of us then so probably calmer as you know what you’re doing (even if babies aren’t your speciality).

I wish I was calmer but I'm not :-( I'm sat here checking his pupils, responses, feeling his head etc :-(

Rang my sister and she said he will be okay and not to worry about taking him in as he will be fine but I'm just so scared :-( he's my baby and obviously I don't want to miss anything. Worst feeling in the world :-(

..but you're a mum first, you can't be expected to be on "nurse" duty ; just try to relax, the reactions you describe seem fine (and i'm not a nurse, just a mum whose children have rolled off things). But if worried, no good a&e/dr should turn away a baby

Honestly, first head bump/tumble off the furniture is a parenting rite of passage. Give it a couple of years and he'll be deliberately leaping off stuff in a game I like to call "we're going to A&E today, aren't we?"

So long as he's alert, responsive, and acting nor.qly then he is most likely okay. Things to watch for are unusual sleepiness, fractious behaviour, vomiting, loss of coordination (as coordinated as a three month old can be anyway), any leaking of fluid from nose or ears, etc. If you are at all concerned then of course seek medical advice.

Stop feeling guilty for one, feel a little worried if you like but it's hardly your fault.

Call 111 (NHS advice line) if you're worried. It's a brilliant service.

You are not real parent until one of your offspring takes an awful dive off a sofa/ bed/chair/table or basically any piece of furniture. My youngest took a spectacular boink from our bed onto the floor and I had to bring him to emergency. It was terrifying

Happens to all of us. Just keep an eye and if he starts getting sleepy/drowsy, has an inwards dent or is sick then go to hospital.

Be kind to yourself. Choc n your fav film. It'll be okay

I’ve been there OP, when my DS was around 16 weeks he was strengthening his legs and his favourite game was to kick against my stomach and lunge away from me. I don’t think he was doing it on purpose obviously but one time he kicked hard enough with both legs right into my lower abdoman and I was having a particularly nasty period, I lost hold and he went flying backwards off my lap (we were sat on the sofa) and landed on the floor - very nearly hitting the metal leg of our coffee table! I felt like absolute shit, he cried, got a bump within about an hour and then carried on as normal. Me being a terrified first time mum called the GP straight away - he gave me the advice that you have already followed (pupil reaction, no vomiting, watch for excessive sleepiness - not an easy one when you have prem twins who spent most of the day sleeping to catch up haha).

He’s now 2 and is playing the game @Venger mentioned but I never had a name for - thanks for that one it’s perfect 😂

I still have flashbacks to that head bump and the guilt is a bugger but we all have those moments. DD fell face first onto the corner edge of a (different) coffee table recently when practicing to walk at her Grans house. Again absolutely fine (but an A&E trip to be sure that time as she fell with quite a bit of force onto a sharp edge) but the guilt was still the same and I wasn’t even there!

Yup happened to me too. In fact it's happened with all 3 of my kids didn't learn the first or second time!

My 13 week old DD did this yesterday. I did call 111 as a precaution, just so they could run through anything to look for to indicate a problem but she was totally fine.

My DD rolled off the bed at three months and landed face down. She had a little red mark on her forehead for an hour or two but was absolutely fine! Just monitor for lethargy, vomiting, etc.

I was more upset than she was for sure!

Choc n your fav film 😂 sorry but that won't solve anything.

OP if you're that concerned give 111 a call. Stop feeling guilty as that won't solve anything either. It's happened. Either you think the baby is ok or you need to seek further advice.

Gosh forgot how sickening that feeling was! Happens to us all DS purposefully tries to dive off the sofa now! I’m sure you’re little one will be fine! If you can’t settle though go see a doc

@MeredithGrey1 what did 111 say to you?

Thanks all for the reassurance, I just feel so shitty. It took a lot for us to have a baby and I don't know what I'd do if my negligence hurt him. He's gone to sleep now, I didn't know whether to keep him awake but it's his bed time and he was desperate to sleep. I've not put him in his cot I'm sat cuddling him and checking on him. Should I wake him ? Or wake him in an hour?

I'm sorry I'm such a worrier.

I am trying to stop feeling guilty ☹️ Just easier said than done. He's my little world and I should have had more sense 🤦🏻‍♀️

@helppleasenewmum wake every hour for a few hours is the advice I was given! Try not to be so hard on yourself OP, it happens to the best of us

Hi op

My dd liked to chuck herself off stuff - still does to be honest and she’s 2. I’m sure they’ve all done it at one point. Don’t beat yourself up. He’ll be ok!