To feel this low about my appearance?

[cheeseandpickle247]

Is it normal to really hate how you look? I’m 22, get told all the time that I’m good looking etc but it just feels like bullshit to me because I really hate myself. I don’t know what to do about it anymore, I’m a personal trainer and still hate my body, etc. Like nothing helps at all. I just feel like the only thing that will help is jaw and lip fillers and getting eyelash extensions etc but then I’m just following the crowd and will end up looking like everyone else my age.

How do I stop feeling so ugly?

Counselling?

I think you would find it helpful to discuss this in therapy. Have you heard of body dysmorphia?

Is there anything specific that you dislike?

If it's a generalised hatred, that sounds more like dysmorphia. How much gazing in the mirror do you do? Do you follow a lot of social influencers on Instagram and the like?

I would cut out looking in the mirror altogether in the short-term.

Seems a shame to feel like that at 22 you’re at your peak. Am 45 and losing looks - make the most of it while you have it!

Yeah I’ve heard of body dysmorphia. I think I may have it because it’s like an obsession to me. It’s all I think about is how disgusting I feel about myself in general.

I tried to cut social influencers out on Instagram and follow body positive people etc but it didn’t help much. Don’t know how to access counselling either as I have just moved to a new city and can’t change gp really as I’m on immunosuppressants and my specialist is worried the new doctor wouldn’t prescribe them etc etc.

@cheeseandpickle247

What, so random people/work colleagues/acquaintances just come up to you and tell you how 'good looking' you are?

Why?

Is it because you are continually saying you are ugly?

Don't get lip fillers and botox FGS. Women with them look awful.

Don't get fillers etc, you are so young

I bet you are beautiful

I think it must be so hard for young women nowadays, this kind of thing seems so widespread. My beautiful, slim, tall 25 yo beauty of a niece hates herself and is on her second boob job. Nothing anyone says to her can convince her to see what we see.

@littlehappyhippo no haha not in that context that would be weird. I mean like in bars or when I was dating etc. And Like friends and stuff. I don’t really tell anyone I feel like this about myself because I hate looking like I’m digging for a compliment.

A) why on earth would a health professional not prescribe medication you need?

B) have you thought about coming off Social Media completely?

My daughter is 22 and I’d be so sad if I thought she felt as you’ve explained.

One thing I’ve learnt from my daughter is that anything goes. She has lots of friends, all different shapes and sizes, and my daughter sees every single one of them as being beautiful.
We all have big boobs, small boobs, big nose small nose, thick hair, fine hair.
As daft as it sounds, write a list of your attributes, the things you’re ok with. Focus on them.

I’m really tall, but growing up I felt like pippi longstocking. Even my own mother would make fun of me. But as I’ve become older, now 44, I love it. I love me now. I wish so much I’d loved me years ago. Not living yourself can be really hard and effect so many aspects of your life.

Smiling is everyone’s most attractive trait. Hold your head up high, excentuate your eyes and strutt your stuff smiling. You’ll be amazed at the responses you attract.
Therapy helped me like and love being me. I so wish I’d gone it sooner. I now have a menspausal tummy but really don’t mind. Nothing a bit of Salsa won’t cure x

Have you try speaking with Mind about getting some help? They might have useful advice for you about how to access it

I used to never be happy with how I looked. I always felt like I was the ugly mate. But then I went to an art gallery & saw how beautiful the women are and yet many would never make it in the cover of the magazine. I have strong features - no beauty by today’s standards but I’d have been pretty hot in Roman days

I've always felt like that. I tolerate how I look but I hate photos/videos of myself. Luckily the fillers/Botox thing wasn't available when I was in my twenties and now at 40 I think people who have them all look so same.
I'm lucky I've a lovely man, family and friends. I know I'm a good and nice person so I've accepted how I feel. I do mindfulness and yoga and workout which helps.
Btw I'm not obsessed by it I live a normal life I just don't like what I see in the mirror

It sounds more mental than physical so I also think therapy would be a good idea but there are a few plastic surgery regret forums and it's not just about procedures gone wrong some people like yourself think they need drastic measures to look beautiful and then find out the surgery didn't help
Mayen u should speak to some people on them and see if anyone can give you advice? I know it's not totally the same thing but still might help
I think it must be so hard growing up now I really hope my daughter never feels like you do and I hope you get past this
Good luck