Brother demanding money

[19withamumtum]

Bit of background: I’m a single mum receiving no child maintenance for my child and earning minimum wage for an apprentice of my age. My brother earns way more money than I do.

Family planned a day out to a garden centre around Christmas time to do ice skating etc, this place also has a Santa’s grotto £20 per child. My brother paid for my child’s place without my knowledge and is now demanding £10 of the £20 back, I know it’s a small amount however I don’t believe I should pay it back as I was originally going to skip that part as DD won’t understand what is even happening and will most likely cry to put it bluntly I don’t see the point until she’s old enough to appreciate it and understand. I feel as though it’d be a waste of my money which could go towards stuff like nappies, wipes etc.

AIBU for refusing to pay and should I just suck it up?

(Ps I’m not a grinch I actually love Christmas I just hate the waste of money, the second I feel DD is old enough to appreciate it which will probably be next year I’d be more than happy to pay.)

I wouldn't. He didn't consult you, your child is too young so it's no use to you. He can demand all he wants, doesn't mean he gets what he wants. Just tell him you didn't request the ticket for Santa and you won't be using it so you won't be paying for it.

You'll probably have to pay this but tell him that in future if he pays money for your child (that he expects back), he must ask you first or you won't consider yourself responsible.

Why did he pay it in the first place? Just say no, tell him to cancel the grotto and get a refund from the place

You are not responsible for other people’s choices. He bought. He shouldn’t expect to be reimbursed as he didn’t ask. You could pay this one time on the understanding it doesn’t happen again if it would make you feel better.

@echt why on earth would she have to pay? She didn't ask for it, doesn't want it and can't afford it. No way should she pay.

Don't pay. What a CF paying without asking, for something you didn't even want and then demanding money from you! That's ridiculous!

If you can stretch to it then I'd do it, nice family day out and not worth the hassle over £10 if you can stretch to it. Maybe say to ask you first next time as that's x hours of work for you, he prob didn't think and didn't want to exclude you.

Nope - YADNBU, you are responsible to pay for anything you have asked for or ordered, You didn't ask for or order this therefore not your responsibility.

Just tell him you never wanted to take dc, you didn't ask him to book it so you won't be paying.

Nope, he should have asked first.

Don't pay or it sets a precedent and next time may be more expensive. He can cancel.

Thank you for thinking of us but you need to check these things with me first. DD would be terrified, she won't enjoy it and i can't afford to pay for something like this

Or drop the thank you if you just want to be clear he's a CF.