To still wear my engagement ring?

[Missuspissy]

We were engaged a year, wedding booked etc. Then we split up. It’s been about 3 months. We’re still friends, have started dating each other again and may well end up rekindling something. We were together 10 years, 3 kids...
I obviously don’t wear my ring anymore. I love it so much though. Would it be weird to still wear it? I can’t wear it in the other hand as I already wear a very sentimental ring
Does anyone else still wear theirs?

You’d have to prise my jewellery out of my cold dead hands to stop me wearing it. I’m not superstitious or sentimental so I don’t see anything wrong with wearing a pretty bit of metal if I want to. I still wear my engagement ring from a much hated ex fifteen years ago.

Yes it would be weird to wear it, unless you're going to get it resized for a different finger.

Continuing to wear a engagement given to you by a man you're friends with, dating other people but you might rekindle something is a recipe for disaster.

Also, and I hope this doesn't sound awful as it's intended with kindness, who instigated the split? Remaining friends with exes works great if it's an amicable split, you've drifted and become purely platonic. It works less so if there's any fuzzy boundaries between when you're friends and when you might fall into bed for old times sake. You might want to guard your heart a little because otherwise it could be messy. I don't know your situation but I've seen it happen

LolaSmiles they aren't dating other people. They are dating each other.

So weird.

You want to wear a reminder of your failed relationship....why?

I’m sorry but if you have to split up and start dating after 10 years, 3 kids then it’s fucked. That ain’t true love

I would wear it on the other hand until you both feel ready to make it that serious

You want to wear a reminder of your failed relationship....why
Because it’s sparkly?

Just swap sentimental ring to wedding finger and put engagement ring on right hand. If you're fussed. If not just wear it and if you don't care who else matters

I wouldn't. A sparkly ring on your 'ring finger' means that you're engaged. What does your ex-fiancé/current sort of BF think about you wearing it?

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Oops! I totally misread that as they were dating and seeing each other (which I took to be the wonderful world of modern dating where things are casual for a while)

In which case then yes, don't wear the engagement ring.

I agree with wearing it on the other hand. Wear it as a symbol that it still means something to you, but that you're waiting for it to mean something to you both together, when it will go on the ring finger again. If the other hand isn't an option, because of another sentimental ring, then how about wearing if on a necklace?

When I break up the engament, I give back the ring to my ex. I guess everybody is different.
Back to your question, why you want to wear it? Don't you think somehow is a passive pushing for the next step? Ask to yourself what are the reasons you want to wear it. You will have the answer.

Thanks. I’m thinking I’ll swap rings to the other hand. Although it’s an ashes ring. Will that be weird wearing that on my wedding finger?!
Having a beautiful platinum diamond ring that’s worth a small fortune just sitting in a box, seems such a shame.
I have t actually asked him about it. I really don’t think he’d mind at all though. He’s probably jjust say ‘its Your ring to do whatever you want with.’

When I break up the engament, I give back the ring to my ex.

I put mine in the bin in McDonald's

Sell it

I couldn’t sell it. I love it too much

I wear mine on my right hand and I've not been with him for 18 years.
Why not, it's a gorgeous platinum and diamond ring.

Just alternate the rings, wearing them on the other hand. My wedding ring came off the day I was married, even though it's 22 k gold as I have a allergy so only wear rings when out.

Even at work I used to take them and my watch off.

It all sounds really messy. Not marrying, broken up but may rekindle. Oh and dating.
Don’t wear it. It’ll muddy the waters further.
If the issues that caused you to split aren’t resolved then don’t attempt to rekindle the relationship.

Crikey wear the bloody ring if you want to. Surely having 3 children together transcends any
‘engagement’.

Aren't you supposed to give it back? Or am I totally old fashioned?

If you love it then wear it. Shame to waste beauty just sitting in a box.

I got mine made into a necklace. Didn't feel right as a ring.

I wouldn’t but I hate jewellery so rarely even wear my wedding ring .

I'm wearing a sparkly ring on the ring finger of my left hand, I'm not engaged, it belonged to my great grandmother, was given to me by my grandmother and it's the only finger it fits on, and that's where it's staying. Goddess knows what I'm going to do if I ever get married again (not wear a ring?)

Anyway, if I had a platinum and diamond ring I'd never take it off! It's not 'weird' to wear other rings on that finger, I've always worn lots of different rings on both hands (because I like sparkly things) and it always seemed a shame to leave that finger out. I also prefer rings on my left hand for day to day because I'm right handed, so my rings and bracelets tend to go to that side.

Sounds confusing for everyone, not least your 3 kids

Interesting thread.

In your position I'd wear it, without question but on the other hand.

I have a beautiful engagement ring which has been tucked away in a box for years, sadly. The relationship ended badly, and the wedding (although all booked) never went ahead.

I've contemplated wearing the ring on my right hand, but it just seems too weird to wear it. Even though I chose it so essentially he just paid for it. I hold no sentimental value of love to it, it's just a beautiful ring. And I think other people would spot it's an engagement ring from a mile off which makes me not want to wear it.

OP I think given your circumstances you should wear it. Hope it all works out and who knows maybe one day you'll have it back on the right finger :-)