"Women's work"

[thatguiltyfeeling]

Was recently having a conversation with someone and they said it's the woman's job to clean, cook, care for the children, and the mans job to work.
She's in her early twenties so shouldn't have been brought up with these views I think, and I'm so shocked anyone from my generation believes that.
I responded by saying I don't believe in that ideology and me and my partner split everything evenly, and I actually manage the money whilst he tends to do more of the cooking and cleaning. She then got the hump with me and has been showing off her "lovely clean flat" that apparently isn't clean enough for her, and kept asking to see mine (id done a big sort out that day and had mentioned it in the morning) and when I finally caved and sent one picture she made it clear it wasn't good enough in her eyes.
Aibu to think a) nothing is women's work or men's work, it's just work and b) that no 20something year old should believe that it's their job to do all of that and not accept any other way of living (she was horrified my partner will have our child for a whole day, or cook every night and tried to argue with me about it).

'Meagre'? Strange use of the word. Did you mean 'mere'? A more common phraseology. Still a pretty sad one for one woman to use about another woman.

You're objecting to her putting you down - you're attempting to not just put her down, but all other women who either have chosen, or have had thrust upon them, one way or another, 'mere housewifery'. . .

What are you doing sending each other photos of your house to assess how clean it is? As if anyone does this?

My response to that would be yeah, you keep on believing that, love, just don't expect me to buy into your Stepford ideology.

I don't think this is so uncommon. My husband is currently a SAHP and both men and women our age act like it's eccentric. Every other SAHP we know is a woman.

gowgow

That comment was completely uncalled for.

I was on your side until you said 'meagre housewife'. I worked full time in a career I loved for years up until I had my third child, but then finances and life events dictated that I now don't work and I deal with all the home stuff instead. I love this equally, if not more, but it doesn't make me feel great that people see me as a 'meagre housewife' now. You both sound a bit highly strung and need to chill out.

I think 'meagre' is a typo.

She sounds like she needs a hobby if she thinks housework is something aspire to ‘achieve’. Is she a gypsy? They are brought up with the attitude that women clean and look after childcare whilst men do manly things like opening jars and bringing in money.

She sounds like she needs a hobby if she thinks housework is something aspire to ‘achieve’

If someone is happy doing something, good for them.