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DP on his fucking phone

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morrisseysquif · 24/09/2019 22:50

DP is on his phone pretty much from the moment he walks in the door. That is ok, I'm on Mumsnet, or working.

What he does do, very annoyingly, is put things on his phone with the volume on. So right now, I'm watching the news and he is watching a video clip from facebook with his phone on, laughing then showing me the screen, not that I can even see it across the room. I turn up the volume on the news and he mutters under his breath 'oh fuck off'. (Five minutes earlier, we were both watching the news. Confused ) I ask him why has he done that, to tell me to 'fuck off' and he says I'm old fashioned watching the tv, the future is the phone and what is on there, not the TV. It was the news, which he always watches and we also often watch stuff together on the tv. I reminded him that I've said in the past it is rude and asked him not to do it, countless times, but he still does it. I say what if we both sat here watching stuff on our phones with the sound on? I don't do it because it is rude. He just says I need to move on and I'm old fashioned, everybody does what he does.

Do you do this? AIBU

(waits for onslaught)

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PinkGinny · 24/09/2019 22:52

Anyone who listens to clips, in company, without headphones/buds is a dick. So fecking rude.

Paddington68 · 24/09/2019 22:53

LTB

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 24/09/2019 22:56

DH had a habit like this a few years ago but with headphones, which sounds considerate but it stops any casual interaction, if he's watching TV and I'm reading we can still chat, but when he's plugged in I'd say something then realise he couldn't hear, or he'd take them out and ask what I'd said, but it wasn't important or the moment had passed. In the end I said to him there had to be a limit I had no issue doing different things some evenings, but he couldn't just plug into his phone every night after work. It's rude and actually I'd rather he was just in another room doing what he wanted. To be fair to him he listened and mainly stopped other than when he's doing something so if he's washing up he might put something on his phone, but since DS he doesn't even really do that

Cluelessbeetroot · 24/09/2019 22:58

The sound on the phone is just rude and twattish, but muttering at you to fuck off, sorry but what a disrespectful arsehole.

JaneJeffer · 24/09/2019 23:02

I threatened to throw DH's phone into the fire tonight because of the same thing Grin

Saucy99 · 24/09/2019 23:06

Here's an idea:

  • Ask him to turn it down
Sparklesocks · 24/09/2019 23:10

It’s completely disrespectful of him to talk to you like that, i wouldn’t be happy.

Rachie1973 · 24/09/2019 23:15

One of my pet hates. My kids used to try it but know better now!

morrisseysquif · 24/09/2019 23:28

He also likes to listen to audio books at night, with the sound on his phone and had a go at me because I didn't want to listen to his book!

He doesn't get my point that if we both choose to listen to stuff on our phones at the same time it would be ridiculous. If the TV is on, we can both interact, if his eyes are glued to his phone, only he can.

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Yabbers · 24/09/2019 23:44

Tell him if he wants a great future, not being a dick and talking to you like that would be a good thing to do.

HappyBumbleBee · 25/09/2019 00:19

Hubby does this so I pause the TV and sit giving him 'the look' - when he realises he apologises and turns it down!
Yanbu - your hubby needs to stop acting like a sulky teenager. Just keep turning the volume up - if he doesn't like it, tell him to get headphones!

OctoberLovers · 25/09/2019 00:22

Me and DP when in the bedroom, he likes watching the tv and i watch things on my phone, i always put the headphones in as its so rude not to

VenusTiger · 25/09/2019 00:48

Haven’t watched the news in months, it’s all biased, one sided shite.

Watch a film instead.

EileenAlanna · 25/09/2019 00:51

Put on a sympathetic face & ask him if he's having a mid-life crisis, what all this wanting to be down with the cool kids stuff, it's the future innit?

Blondebakingmumma · 25/09/2019 00:57

If this was reversed and my husband told me that when the news was up I wasn’t allowed on my phone and then turned the volume up I would be pretty angry. I’m going against the grain here.

The audiobook thing is annoying. Maybe play an audiobook on your phone and see how he likes it

WipeYourFeetOnTheRhythmRug · 25/09/2019 01:09

Telling your other half to "fuck off" is aggressive and rude. He sounds like a dick.

Shoxfordian · 25/09/2019 05:51

He sounds like a knob

ThinkerThunkk · 25/09/2019 06:35

One persons choice of viewing isn't automatically right, turning up the volume is passive aggressive. The point could be made you could both wear ear phones?

However I would possibly sleep deprived bludgeon him if I had to listen to an audio book.

TBH, I get annoyed with the TV on if Im reading a book. But it would be unreasonable to ask the other person to watch the TV with headphones in, or using subtitles.

Mary1935 · 25/09/2019 06:38

Can he not go in a different room or use headphones. He’s very rude.

overnightangel · 25/09/2019 06:47

You shouldn’t have married a 13 year old then should you

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