These days, young people all cheat.

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AIBU to find this assumption ageist or even stereo-typing?

A friend said that these days people in their 20s etc just assume/accept that the person that they are seeing will also being seeing lots of other people at the same time.
That it's just the way now - most people are "shared" at the beginning of a relationship and that includes having sex with all the people that they are seeing.
Is this really just common place and am I to presume that my DS will one day have only this as an option when he's old enough (toddler!)
I get that everyone is different and everyone dates differently. I'm also sure that back when I was single, this choice of dating also happened but, AIBU to think that this is very assuming of just one age group - pile them into a pot and think, that's it - that's what most people accept as normal, exclusive dating is old fashioned?!

YANBU.

I think with all the dating and hook up apps, it's easier for people to cheat, but unfair to assume they all definitely will. It's down to the individual person and their values, I suppose.

A friend said that these days people in their 20s etc just assume/accept that the person that they are seeing will also being seeing lots of other people at the same time.
I think that's a really sad way to look at it. It's probably more common now, but you'll find some people who want to be exclusive and some who don't. Either's fine as long as both parties are on the same page.

I am so glad I am not young anymore. I can't seem to fathom out the modern rules of life . Old Gimmer that I am.

Young un’s have always been fairly sex hungry, it’s just a part of puberty. I’d say it’s quite rare for a teenager to remain in a monogamous state and I don’t see much issue with that provided the sex is safe.

This isn’t new, it’s been happening for a vaaaaiiirrryyyy long time.

I absolutely wouldn't call it "cheating" to be seeing more than one person in the very early stages of dating. By that I mean 1-3 dates. There should be a shared understanding of this, yes.

I also don't really think that most people are having sex with every person they go on a date with. Most first dates are unsuccessful.

I did the whole online dating thing, and I always tried to be at least chatting to more than one man, as it meant that I didn't get emotionally invested in every date. It really was 'just a coffee' and then if there was no spark then that was that.

Personally cheating can only occur if a discussion has been had (and then ignored) about a monogamous relationship.

Dating more than one person is fine but all parties should know this is happening.

You have to kiss a few frogs and all that

Research indicates that young people are having LESS sex than their parents and grandparents at the same ages.

If they're doing more cheating, it's at cards.

If you're on dating websites then it's taken for granted by both parties that you're going on dates with different people until you have the exclusive talk.

Online dating and hook up sites have changed everything. Or rather it's made sex easier to get.

So your friend is right.

My DD(24) has just found a partner on a website, but they both dated other people after meeting, for around two months.

It isn't cheating.

"Research indicates that young people are having LESS sex than their parents and grandparents at the same ages"

If that's the case, but i don't fully believe it, then I'd say the reason was drug and alcohol over use.

I can understand the concept of going on dates with several people concurrently, at least in the early stages. But not for long.... how many dates does it take to work out whether there’s a spark that’s worth exploring - 2, 3?

Sleeping with more than one person at a time is not my idea of how relationships should be conducted. I have never done it and I wouldn’t be comfortable with someone who thought it was OK.