Background: My husband has always teased me about his popularity and interest from women. I have gone from being confident and secure in the past to very jealous and insecure. I talked to him about it and he said it was to toughen me up and get me used to jokes.
Last year we lost a baby. We agreed to try for another and as soon as I got pregnant he went cold. Wouldn't even mention the pregnancy until I went in to have the baby (early)
Now he loves the baby apparently (though does very little for him) but not fatherhood and is adamant no more but won't have the snip (I want more so not an issue for me) because.... His future partner may want kids.
I laughed and shoved at him as you do thinking it's one of those jokes I hate but have sort of got used to. But he said no. That seriously he had to consider these things. I laughed it off but can't get it out of my head. Who plans for a future with a different partner? I think of the saying of true word spoken in jest... And feel awkward. I don't think he's cheating as he's begged me not to 'force him' into it. (high risk pregnancy so no sex) but he is away a bit for work and now I feel so so unsure.
Ps in case it's questioned I can't have hormonal contraception as it makes me suicidal