Teen will not sort anything for herself.

[Alltheteen]

It is driving me insane.
Firstly she does have some mild special needs so I do understand she finds it hard but she will be in the workplace shortly and her needs are not enough that she will be likely get any form of support.

She will not tell teachers if anything is incorrect, if she has not got what she needs, if she has the wrong thing or whatever things you may need to communicate with staff.

The latest saga is she is at risk of losing her bursary, her college bus place from today and eventually her college place because she will not tell teacher 1 that since sets were changed and she was moved sets teacher 2 is marking her absent.
I've been asking her to tell her tutor this for two weeks.

I've had to email today to sort it so she doesn't lose everything.

Help! Is this a teen thing or an SEN thing? Even with SEN aibu to be driven mad because eventually I will not be here to sort everything.

I've tried and tried everything for her to have the skills to do these things to no avail. Aibu to ask you all what works for you?

You need to meet with the college and her to work this out. This is more than a lack of organisation, it sounds more that she lacks confidence. Does she do anything that would be self esteem building? Could she have anxiety?

No real advice sorry but it does sound more like a typical teen thing.
Has she recently moved from school to college? It can be a bit of a shock to have been spoon fed education for 5 years to being responsible for your own days.
Is she shy? Doesn't like speaking to new teachers?
My ds annoyed me so much age 18 getting a photo for a new passport for a college trip he was desperate to go on
Kept putting it off! All he had to do was a 5 minute walk to town and go into the post office for it!!
In the end I said fine
You dont do it you dont go to Italy and it eventually dawned on him that mum and teachers cant do everything.
I wonder if your dd is finding college more confusing than most due to SEN?
Will she open up to you in a chat?
I found the car a good place for teens to talk for some reason.

I have similar issues with my 12yo son

Ugh my 12yo has been like this for years. Now she's in secondary school and I'm not there, there have been lots of texts back and forth dealing with things she hasn't told school. She's apparently more intimidated (her word) if it's someone who knows her.

She is shy until she knows people.
She has done air cadets and karate in the past to raise her confidence.

She is at college newly yes but her course is small and she only has a few staff.