Just need to vent

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Okay so I know I am being unreasonable so just need to vent I guess.
DH currently away sorting out stuff for in-laws.
Gone for 4 nights, and as it happens the job couldn't be done this time (lack of research on PIL side) and will require a second trip in the next 4-6 weeks or so.
DH also travels for work quite frequently.
Currently I'm on mat leave, have 4 DC. Feeling quite down at the moment, still have some delivery issues that are not resolved, feeling really tied to the house. Hard to go meet up with people due to multiple school runs.
Have tried to get involved with more local parents etc but it all seems so cliquey - it's hard to join. Live very rural so no baby groups etc.
Anyway, DH was due home on Thursday, but sadly there has been a death in the in-laws extended family, so he will be going to that and now will not be home until Friday evening at best.
I know IABU but just feeling really smothered at the moment, tied to house, can't make any plans without trying to coordinate everything etc
Almost feel like going back to work early just for adult company & some freedom!
Sigh! Rant over!

How old is baby? All are all 4 DC young? I think that your DH is taking the piss being away for 4 nights and then staying on for an extended relatives funeral. Obviously if you didnt have 3 kids and a baby that would be understandable but you give up that level of flexibility when you have young children. What has his attitude been about this?

@blackcat86 DC are from 8, 6, 3 & 19 weeks

@blackcat86 we haven't spoken other than via text since he left last weekend. I woke up to text message about the funeral

He’s hasn’t rung you at all?! A text is one thing, but a conversation is another, especially when you know the person is by themselves.

I don’t think YABU at all

@PotteringAlong
To be fair we would tend to communicate via text when he travels more than calls. Would do FaceTime with the kids etc, but hasn't been time this week, as older DC are trying out some new activities while I am on mat leave etc.

I’ll let him off then

Sounds like you've got a lot on your plate there. I guess he used to being away but it's a shame he's decided to stay on rather than spending time with his DC or giving you a break. I'm surprised PIL havent said anything.

PIL want everything! On one hand saying how busy life is with small children etc.... and then asking him to come do random jobs, funerals etc at the same time. This is not the first distant relatives funeral he has been to!