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AIBU not to take toddler to A&E?

51 replies

Shehz21 · 23/09/2019 21:47

So sorry for posting here right now but in a bit of a pickle right now.

An hour and a half ago DD 2 bumped her head against a sharp corner table. She cried for few minutes but calmed down after dummy/cuddle. We were leaving DHs cousin's house at the time to go back home. As soon as we sat in the car,she slept almost immediately until our ride back home which is about 8mins away. She seemed highly lethargic when Dh took her out of carseat and brought her up to her cot.. almost seemed unconscious but she wasn't. she was very sleepy and snoring. She had a big egg on the place she bumped her head.
I started googling about concussions in toddlers etc and now panicking. Dh tried to wake her up in vain for 10mins until he put a cold pack of peas on her bump then she woke up screaming.
She been playing with her toys since and fell asleep just now again.
Is there anyone to help me calm down and tell me whether I am being unreasonable not to take her due to risk of concussion/more serious issues.

TIA.

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Bourbonbiccy · 23/09/2019 22:06

Sorry OP cross post.
Good luck, I'm sure it's fine, just better for peace of mind 💐💐

Mouikey · 23/09/2019 22:07

We had similar - called 111 for advice and went to A&E to get checked... we waited around for an hour or so after being triaged - but this was really to check that she didn’t change drastically. When we saw the dr he talked us through everything, checked her over and told us to keep an eye on her. She had a huge egg but weirdly not that impressive bruise.

Get checked, if anything it will make you feel better. They won’t tell you off for wasting their time.

ALoadOfTwaddle · 23/09/2019 22:10

Hope you get seen quickly, OP and that everything is as it should be. My sympathies- you're in for a long night.

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Shehz21 · 23/09/2019 22:11

I am hoping they don't tell me off because she is back to herself now. Just clapping her hands to baby bloody shark and playing peek a boo with DH. I still rather go to get some peace of mind. Anything I should worry about with concussion in toddlers?

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sproutsandparsnips · 23/09/2019 22:13

They should give you advice, but vomiting would be a particular concern- especially more than twice.

Hecateh · 23/09/2019 22:14

No one would mind but I'm with you. If she is awake and playing now there is unlikely to be an issue.

As a children's nurse, the nights I spent shining lights into children's eyes every hour, making them panic and scream (many years ago [40] so few parents stayed overnight unless the child was critical). We never ever did anything else, there was never any real treatment offered.

This isn't advice but just that I would keep them at home.

Cuppa12345 · 23/09/2019 22:14

We had the same. Were in two minds so went to A&E. They did some checks, sent us home with a leaflet that said what to look out for over next few days and to wake them at several intervals in the night. She was fine, no one thought we were wasting time (I think) and were helpful.

It was a grim 4 hour wait though

SpaghettiSharon · 23/09/2019 22:15

I’m a lone voice in that I would have monitored her at home but you’re on your way now Smile.

I read from your post that she was hard to rouse because she was asleep - both mine were hard to wake up in that situation!

Every parent is different though - hope you get some reassurance and don’t have to wait too long.

Ciwirocks · 23/09/2019 22:16

Op I used to work in a&e. There are plenty of things that make your eyes roll but a child with a head injury is not one of them, even if they look absolutely fine they won’t mind at all and would rather see her than not if you are concerned. The main things to look out for are altered behaviour and vomiting but once they have seen her they will give you all the information you need and advice on what to look for. Hope you aren’t waiting too long but you will all sleep better tonight after some reassurance.

Starlight456 · 23/09/2019 22:18

Glad you are taking her..

It is far better to check out and it be nothing than not and it is something.. 2 year olds can't tell you exactly how they feel..

enjoy your hours of baby shark

Raindancer411 · 23/09/2019 22:20

Glad you taking her. My son hit his head hard at school when someone moved the chair from under him. School called and said he seemed ok and they were keeping an eye on him. When he came home he couldn't remember a big present he had for the day before, and it rang bells to me. All right I every other way. 111 wanted to send an ambulance for him which worried me, but we took him down ourselves. What I didn't know and I educated the school on is there is more than one type of concussion. His was cognitive concussion and he was off school for a good four days after!! Hope they can put your mind at ease

TatianaLarina · 23/09/2019 22:31

It’s better to get her checked out. But depending what time this happened, she may just have been tired after a long day.

BishBashBoshy · 23/09/2019 22:47

They won't tell you off. They'd rather see a healthy child "just in case" than not. Besides, with the symptoms you were describing, you should be there. I'm sure she'll be fine though. X

Iwrotethissongfor · 23/09/2019 22:50

I know you’ve gone now and hope all is well. If they’re not bleeding I’d look at whether they’re not their self after a bump. A bump followed by tears but easily comforted sounds fine. The egg part is troubling but It’s the sleepy part which is very worrying albeit out of context... but what time does she normally go to sleep? My two year old normally goes to bed between 7pm and 8pm and would immediately fall asleep in a car journey at what 8.30pm? And once she’s asleep she’s always difficult to rouse.

Hope it’s just a boring wait and she’s ok.

HugTrees · 23/09/2019 22:55

Well done for taking her. Any drowsiness after a head injury and of course you should go.

Italiangreyhound · 23/09/2019 23:04

Well done for taking her. Best thing to do.

Justaboy · 23/09/2019 23:20

I am hoping they don't tell me off because she is back to herself now

No medical person will ever tell you off for bringing someone in with a suspected head injury.

They would tell you off for NOT doing so!

The human brain has the consisentcy of blancmange. If its damged a brain bleed can happen and thats bad news as the skull is enclosed and theres nowhere for that to go, so i presses on brain tissue, not good.

Well its not always quite that bad but its something that should be checked and espically in babes and toddlers and for that matter children and well adults all in much the same excepet that younger ones can't compalin and tell you how they feel

Dontcarewhatimdoing · 24/09/2019 06:01

I hope all is well and you are back home now!

Binforky · 24/09/2019 07:09

Hope you got on ok. They won't tell you off for going in. My parents got into alot of trouble years ago for not taking me after I crashed my bike into a wall (still can't remember being on my bike). I had a huge bump on my head that they initially thought would need plastic surgery and cuts all over my face. I had to be monitored for a week in hospital due to server concussion and memory loss.

LiveRightNow · 24/09/2019 07:14

Hope all was ok op

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 24/09/2019 08:28

Hope she is ok

You done the right thing OP . Head injuries are what I would class a emergency , especially in the young.

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Shehz21 · 24/09/2019 09:29

Goodmorning everyone. We finally getting discharged. It was one hell of a long night but she was kept for observation due to the concussion. However Dr says she seems fine in herself, eating drinking normally and playing as usual. Her communication skills seem a bit heightened if anythingGrin. But thank you so much everyone for the kick up the butt to take her to A&E. As a ftp,I am often confused as to what I should do in certain circumstances. Thank you once again everyoneSmile

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Wolfiefan · 24/09/2019 09:53

I’m so glad you’re on your way home and she’s ok.

MrsMozartMkII · 24/09/2019 09:55

So glad she's okay!

Hope you can have a chilled day.

LiveRightNow · 24/09/2019 17:47

Glad she's ok! Always best to be safe than sorry, and as they kept you in definitely the right call. Hope you all managed a rest today.