Ex bf messaged friend when drunk

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I know I’m being completely unreasonable.

Ex boyfriend, we only split up a few weeks ago so I’m not over him and still have feelings for him. He was drunk over the weekend and sent a message to my friend. It wasn’t anything bad, just asking how she was but I feel really upset about it. He’s single so fully aware he can do whatever he wants and speak to whoever he wants but it’s a bit of a shit thing to do isn’t it? She didn’t engage with him, just asked why he was messaging her and told me about it. I’m feeling a bit sad about things anyway and this has made me feel worse because I’m thinking he’s maybe thought about her in a romantic sense when we were together?

Yep, that’s pretty shit of him but at least you know you can trust your mate. I bet she debated whether to tell you or not but she probably did the right thing.

Sorry, break ups suck.

It probably wasn't romantic - as in he probably doesn't think he's in love with her, he just fancies her. And yes, it sucks and yes, it's pretty shitty so soon after you split however much he's technically free to do as he wants. On the plus side you know you have a good friend.

Break up sucks but yes, he can do what he likes. Sorry OP.

It does indeed suck, I know he’s free to do whatever he wants but it hurts to think he’s feeling ready to move on so quick and that he’s probably thought about her when he was with me to message her so soon after we broke up.

She’s a great friend, she’s been there for me through a lot over the last few years, I feel really lucky to have her as a friend.

He was probably just trying his luck whilst drunk and after her response I imagine he's feeling like a bit of a prat. I understand it's a bit upsetting though that it's too close to home for him to be sniffing around your friend

He’s done nothing wrong, his single so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Many of us have sent drunken texts, sometimes in the cold light of day you know it wasn’t your finest hour but not much you can do about it

He's a dick. Don't be sad...be happy, you aren't with him anymore, and your friend is loyal to you so two reasons to celebrate!

Much more important to have good friends in life than some twatty bloke who you're not even with any more. You should feel happy

Good friend, twatty ex. It was probably a drink thing. Hopefully he's a bit embarrassed.

Move on OP💐