AIBU and just too sensitive?

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Me and colleague arranged to meet for lunch on Sunday.

I text on Saturday to confirm times and she read it and did t respond for 3 hours. Which in itself is completely fine but unusual for her.

She then text to say she’s just been pottering around the house getting stuff done and she’ll let me know as she feels really unwell.

Next morning too unwell to meet up.

Then today she comes into work acting like she normally does (no sign of looking or feeling ill) and I overheard her saying she went to a family fun day event all day Saturday.

I just feel pretty hurt by the whole thing but kept it to myself as I can’t be bothered with drama.

That’s very hurtful. You aren’t being sensitive. Have you met her out if work before?

I'd say Sunday hangover.

Thank you.

And yes met up a couple of times. We’re not best friends or super close but I definitely classed her a friend.

Don’t think you’d do that to a friend though

Its very flaky of her.

That is hurtful, you’re not being too sensitive.

I would steer clear - you value her more than she values you.

Then today she comes into work acting like she normally does (no sign of looking or feeling ill) and I overheard her saying she went to a family fun day event all day Saturday.

Not the sharpest knife in the drawer is she?

Well no .. if you’re gonna lie then at least lie we’ll.

That’s really unkind of her.

YANBU at all to be upset. It's a bit of a smack in the face, after all. BUT you mustn't complain to her about it. Just don't invite her to meet up again and keep all your interactions polite but work-related. Mentioning it to her or anyone else at work will make you look like a sad Milly-No-Mates, unfortunately - better to just move on.

If she was hungover then she should have said so. I don't like chicken-y people.

I wouldn't bother arranging anything with her again OP. Wide berth from now on.
Reminds me of a 'friend' telling me she had to go build her kids Birthday gift, her child had just been showing it off in the school playground a minute before (but I didn't know otherwise I'd have pulled her up on it!)
Sometimes people tell the strangest of lies!

Did she initiate the meet up? If so, I would just assume she changed her mind or had a hangover. Although it’s not nice, I wouldn’t read too much into it.

We’ve all arranged something and then regretted it due to not being up for it on the day haven’t we?

Did she initiate the meet up? If so, I would just assume she changed her mind or had a hangover. Although it’s not nice, I wouldn’t read too much into it.

We’ve all arranged something and then regretted it due to not being up for it on the day haven’t we?

I don’t. I genuinely care about people and if I make plans it’s because I want to see that person. Only a genuine reason would cause me to cancel.

I’ve been on the receiving end of flaky people and how shit their behaviour can make you feel. I would never want to purposely inflict that on another person.