To be tired of life.

[Mamadoll]

I'm 35 years old and have spent most of the last 25 years of my life in bed exhausted. I have no energy to take care of myself and spend most of my time in isolation - no family/ friends, though I don't really care about being alone as I couldn't keep up with others.

I somehow have managed to hold down jobs but it's just a way to make ends meet. I would go to work and come home to bed until the next day, and repeat.

Over the years I have tried to change things, I.e take up a hobby or just go outside for a walk but I couldn't maintain them due to the exhaustion that would ensue. I tried to change my diet and joined a gym but again, couldn't maintain the gym as it would be the only thing I could manage and would spend the rest of the day in bed unable to move.

I have just started a new job recently after being unemployed for about 2 years and I'm struggling to muster the energy to get up each day. It's hugely frustrating as I struggle to find many jobs where I can work around a few impediments I seem to have (undiagnosed, but have had enough people commenting over the years to know I'm not imagining it). I'm also limited to work that I can do, I left school at 13 years old as I couldn't cope so there's a huge gap in my basic education.

Is this it for the next however many years until I die?

Do you have a diagnosed illness? If not, I suspect you should go to your GP for tests to find the cause because that isn’t normal.

Have you had tests as you could have some kind of deficiency in vitamins causing it? Or something like CFS...

Definitely go to the doctor. It sounds medical as well as mental especially if you've been this way since 10 years old. You're just existing currently, not living. Please get yourself some professional help. I wish you all the best

Is this a medical condition OP- have you had a blood test?

Congratulations on your new job.
Have you not been to the doctors about this?

When was the last time you saw a GP? Are you under any ongoing medical care?

You’ve obviously got some kind of condition because this level of exhaustion is not normal.

I’m assuming you have been to the GP? Surely your parents would’ve taken you when it all started?

I don't know if there is a medical problem, I've never been tested, but I just thought that this was my 'normal' so have only mentioned it once to a dr, several years ago who told me to just go for a walk which I tried. Speech is something that I struggle with so it's difficult to get my point across trying to explain something so I don't bother with most things, especially trying to make dr appointment and explaining to the receptionist who has to screen for drs appointments. I.e I may not say what I mean and end up with a nurse then having the nurse refer me back to the dr as she can't prescribe any meds I may need.

You need some help, try and see a dr, perhaps writing it all down beforehand so you don’t leave anything out. Something must be up and hopefully you can get some support. Ever thought about allergy testing? That might show up some allergic reaction, good luck.

You don't have to explain anything to the receptionists. You are within your right to say it's personal. And as pp said, write it all down before hand, all your symptoms, how you feel etc

Oh OP - this is not normal.

You seriously need some help - agree that you need to write it down for the GP and have a spiel ready for the receptionist.. Don't go with 'I've been feeling tired' because they hear that all the time.. detail the length and severity - the difficulty with speech is also something that you should mention.

I think you definitely need to book to see a Dr, look at it this way you are losing nothing by getting checked out! There could be numerous medical reasons you are feeling like this and there could also be many helpful options to help you feel better. It’s not normal to be feeling that lethargic all the time

As above, demand a gp appointment and show them your post.

I saw a chap on the BBC one series 'Doctor in the House' who had similar symptoms and had spent years too exhausted to function. He turned out to have very low vitamin b levels (b12 I think) and was right as rain after a high dose course of supplements. He was a completely different man in fact. It was astounding.

Ok you need to type out a list all of your symptoms, how long they’ve been going on for, and go see a GP and hand over the list.

The way you feel is really not normal.

Hi op, you sound very coherent on here so just type out what you have said here and pass it to your DR....

Op my life is very like yours. I have M.E/CFS (amongst other things)

Please go to the dr so you can at least get some sort of diagnosis & possibly support.

You can’t go on feeling like this. You must see a doctor. Ask for a double appointment as it will take longer than ten minutes. Write down what you want to say to the receptionist and read it over the phone. Likewise write down what you want to say to the doctor or write it in letter form . You might find it easier to discuss how you feel if you do this. It might be something simple like a lack of vitamins as someone else said. Well done on working whilst in this state. You have real tenacity and grit. This state might be normal for you but it isn’t normal at all. The other posters have made some excellent suggestions but we all seem to think you need to see the doctor as soon as possible. I hope you get well soon.