To want to cut off my father

[Avalaura]

I've only known him for about 5 years now and at first it was ok.
But mostly in that time he's only ever been a pain in the backside. He overreacts being cocky in front of everyone. He shows his jealousy like a child. Makes up things to cause trouble.
Has drunk text me before to say he's heard things about me when he hasn't.
And lately he's been hinting that he thinks I'm after his money when I'm not!
I think it may be because I told him I can't really afford to feed him and his wife with a big meal everytime they come down to see us but he can still come down. He turned real quiet on the phone when I told him that.
And I just find him very petty.
I feel like I just don't want to see him or hear from him anymore.

If you don't want to see him, then don't.

Did you go looking for him or did he seek you out, OP?

Either way, perhaps you could gently lessen contact and be around less when he wants to visit.

No you don’t have to see anyone who makes you feel negative, regardless of who they are. I’m not in contact with my parents because of how they make me feel. Is there a backstory as to why you’ve only known him for a few years? If he was an absent parent he can take even more of a running jump!

I don't blame you, he sounds a complete cock. Are there also issues about childhood abandonment or was that not his fault? Even with a nice person starting a father/child relationship with your dad as an adult would be tricky, and there's no obligation on you to keep trying if it's not working out. Don't feel guilty. Do what's best for you.

An ex found out his mother had lied about something his father had done so got back in touch after having no contact for most of his childhood.

He found out both parents had lied, he found out some truths but was not impressed about the exaggeration by his father about how successful he was. He was lying to impress his son but it was so easy to see through the lies. He was very confrontational when challenged and wouldn't give honest answers to simple questions. He was very much an attention seekers and constantly interrupted others to get the attention. He was mean spirited about everything and constantly trying to run overs down.

I can understand why his mother wanted to keep her ex away from her children and why their relationship broke down. They eventually went very low contact.