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DaisiesAndCompasses · 23/09/2019 13:36

I need to decide whether to move today.

Current flat - One bed, in an excellent location, 5 minutes walk from town. We have a parking space, which is unusual! Period building, with lovely tall ceilings, and we've decorated it well (if I do say so myself!). We've been here for five years. We fit, just about - we've both got things in storage which costs about £100 a month, and there's not enough room to have people over, or to have kids... it's tight, but lovely. It's the first place that I've ever lived that has felt like home.

We've had an offer accepted on a house, and the mortgage offer has just come through. Two beds, a lovely living room/diner. A bit of a conservatory, a little square yard. Big enough to have a dining room table, to have a few people over, for me to have a few places to work (I work from home so spend 90% of my time in the living room right now). 30 minutes walk from town but a nice walk, no allocated parking but it seems nobody has any problems usually. It doesn't need much work doing to it.

It doubles the mortgage, but it's manageable and still a lot less than I used to pay in rent. It would be the home we settle in for now, have our first child in, set up my business...

I loved it when we saw it (three times), but I love the flat so much. I also hate change! Would you go for it?

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maxelly · 23/09/2019 13:48

Is it purely the fear of change making you doubt the house, or has something happened to make you change your mind? You don't mention any cons to the house other than the bigger mortgage? I would 100% go for it, sounds cheesy but it doesn't mean you don't still love the flat and won't treasure the memories you have of it, but sounds like the flat was perfect for one phase of your life, but in order to move on (kids, business etc.), it's time to let it go and let someone else love the flat?

For someone who fears change it does sound like moving to the house represents a lot more changes that just where you physically live, is this what's really worrying you? But it all sounds like positive changes to your life so I think you probably need to be a bit brave and take the plunge?

Gazelda · 23/09/2019 13:48

Do you see yourself still being happy living in your flat in 5 years time? is it your 'forever home'?

Hahaha88 · 23/09/2019 13:49

Absolutely go for the house

DaisiesAndCompasses · 23/09/2019 13:52

I think it is just fear of not loving it as much! It has no real downsides, mortgage aside.

Staying in the flat... we could do it, but we couldn't have kids, so it's not likely. We're both keen to have a family! It'll also need more work doing to it as it gets older. I always thought my fiancé would struggle with leaving it more than me; but he seems fine.

I think I thought I'd have more time to come to terms with it. We got a viewing booked an hour after it went onto Rightmove and they made an asking price offer an hour or so later... mortgage offer is through today.

I think you're right. Someone else needs to love this place now... it's been such a lovely home to us.

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