AIBU to think here should be a support group....

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For when your kids go to uni/leave home!! Or am I being overly dramatic, the grief I'm feeling is overwhelming!

Oh no, I've this to come, sorry your feeling like this

Thank you, no one ever seems to talk about, I can't be the only one right?

It's not grief! Grief is for when people die and are gone forever.

Try this thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/3694732-Our-DC-are-nearly-all-officially-students-now-going-to-university-2019-20-seizing-the-moment-spending-socialising-societies-and-studying

Grief is a clumsy description but the OP is feeling very sad and I suppose in some ways she’s feeling bereft. Her life has changed and she feels like she has lost a part of it.

Grief is the nearest I've ever felt to this, did not mean to cause offense.

Thank you for the link.

Grief is for when people die and are gone forever

Not necessarily. The sense of loss people feel when a part of their life is over or gone or been taken away from them is akin to grief. The end of a relationship, a diagnosis of an incurable/disabling health condition or just the end of an era in your life can all make you feel bereft.

I don't have kids but I know that my mum found it very, very hard when I left home to go to university. She absolutely LOVED being a mum and was not someone who'd ever been interested in building a career - she worked, but only either from home or during the hours we were at school. I'm the youngest in the family so when I left, it just meant that a whole era of her life had effectively finished and although she was thrilled that I'd got a place at university and was spreading my wings, she was still gutted that her days of looking after us all were over. It was just a big adjustment for her. And probably made harder for her because I was very shy and she knew I was worried about going to university and making friends.