Parenting

[Koniczynka12]

Hi everyone, hope you can help. This might be long sorry. My husband works ( office) and I stay at home with our 10 months old. Problem is when he comes home he doesn't do anything with our baby unless I'm telling him to. If I cook or clean he will look after him but soon after he will "hand over" to me. I will bath and put our baby to bed so he's got time to rest etc. But he won't do anything unless I ask or make him. He will play on he's phone and watch TV as soon as he gets up at the weekend. I don't have time to myself unless baby is asleep. We recently moved so during day time naps I do a lot of cleaning around the house and decorating. I find myself painting my nails and showering only at night time but that leaves me with no time to just relax. Is that normal?? Is he lazy and selfish or not?

You need to tell him to do things for your baby's benefit more than your own.

Tell him to bath the baby and put him to bed. Explain to him that his son needs to bond with him and this is what he can do.

Well it's unfortunately common but not acceptable. He should be doing 50% of the work when he gets home. Childcare and housework.
You've had the baby all day so it's not like you've bern relaxing. He may not understand how much work it is (and is probably a bit lazy too).
It's not just about bonding with the baby. It's about fairness and your wellbeing and mental health.