AIBU to feel the need to tidy rather than go to the beach?

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The house has been a total tip for weeks now and I finally had a weekend free to do something about it but my partner is in a huff because I'm not taking the kids to the beach.
AIBU?

The house has been getting messier and messier and I'm sorry but when I come home from work I have enough else to do on top of general feeding everyone, dishes, laundry and taking the dog out that I don't have time or energy to pick up after everyone else.

I've been busy with one thing and another the last few weekends but knew I had this one free so thought I could finally catch up with everything.

At it all day yesterday, with a brief stop to take the dog for a walk at 3pm because my partner still had not got dressed. At 4pm my darling partner (still clad in pajamas) tells me, "it's still a lovely day, so I thought we could take the kids to the beach for a run around and a barbecue."

Now they've gone in a huge huff because I told them the house and garden were still a mess and a better use of the weather would be to tidy the lawn!

Was I being unreasonable?

You're doing everything whilst your DP lazes around in pjs?

You know this isn't tight, you don't need a forum to tell you that

You've framed the question wrong. The question

"AIBU to feel the need to tidy rather than go to the beach?"

Should be

"AIBU to be in a relationship that's so unequal in terms of house hold labour that I end up getting arsey and passive aggressive about a suggestion of a nice day out because I can't see past how put upon I feel that all the housework cleaning tidying and admin falls to me and no one appreciates it"

I think you've tidied enough and you should go to the beach. And get partner to participate next time!

Well ... if the weather’s still good with you then it’s probably your last chance for beach & BBQ with sunshine this season, so I can see their point. We’ve got thunderstorms and so we ditched the tidying yesterday in favour of outdoor stuff. Tidying today instead.

OTOH, why the hell hasn’t your partner & kids been tidying up too? Why is it your responsibility?

Although that doesn't make for such a snppy thread title.

Unless you live in a country with loads of lovely sunny days, YABU. Enjoy fine weather and days on the beach while you can. You can tidy when it's dark, wet and miserable.

Next time leave him & the kids at home to pull their weight and go to the beach alone. Cheeky fucker.

I'd be wanting to stay and tidy too, but my partner would stay and help!

I'd have made help tidy and get it done quicker/earlier and then get out in the sun.

I feel sorry for your children tbh with a father like that

Well if he'd helped you you may have finished at 4pm and then it wouldn't have been a problem.

Have you pointed this out?

Yanbu either to plan weekends of sorting. My ds is a swimmer. Weekends often I c,due some kind of competition this time of year and we have 2 weekends between now and November where we aren't at a pool all day one day or for a whole evening.

So despite the lovely weather I planned to stay in and catch up on housework (I'm a LP so it does all have to fall on me). Also ds could then do loads of revision for upcoming year 11 tests.

Apart from yesterday morning and in an hour for his swim training - I have not left the house.

I'm quite chilled