To find this man creepy?

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In Birmingham around the vicinity of Primark/Zara/Bullring entrance there’s those people that stop others in the street in an attempt to get them to sign up to something/donate. The same male keeps bothering me and I feel uncomfortable - am I overreacting?

The first time earlier this week, he approached me and I carried on walking. He started to follow me and stand in front of me, to which I asked him to leave me alone.

The next day he called out ‘oi legs’ and said ‘you look like trouble, very very naughty’. I told him to fuck off, he again continued to follow me as I walked off and he made a comment to the effect of ‘wow, you don’t want to help homeless people? What is wrong with you?’

Today he approached me again and I continued to walk away. He then said ‘why do you always look so angry, you’ll never get anywhere in life with a face like that’. (I wanted to retort but I just left it.)

I don’t know what potential charity he works for to complain to his employer. I have shown 0 interest in him/whatever he’s bothering people about and have already asked him to leave me alone but he’s persistent and keeps commenting on my appearance, I’m sick of it.

Like fuck was it a misunderstanding.

Of course he was apologetic - once he knew you had evidence of his behaviour, he had to back down. You really do still need to report him.

To be fair he was sort of apologetic after I explained why he was making me feel uncomfortable, now I feel a bit hesitant to report his behaviour to his employer? He tried to play it off as a ‘misunderstanding’

He's only apologetic because he knows you're now in a position of power and you've made him aware that his attention is unwanted. Report him to his employer and don't feel remotely bad about it. I doubt if you're the only one he's been harassing.

Not sure if that bit where he stops you (long time since I was in Brum) is private property or not, if it is I’d also complain the centre or the council even. It’s not on, I thought they were bad in London, this sort of behaviour has completely the opposite effect to making you want to donate.

I used to do a job like this. What he is doing is completely unacceptable. Please find out from his colleagues who he works for and report him.

Definitely report him, if he’s doing it to you he’s likely doing it to others too. You are entitled to walk down the street without being constantly harassed. When you report him make sure you say it wasn’t a one off incident.

Definitely report him now you have the evidence. You would also be helping a lot of other people who have, no doubt, encountered his behaviour as well.

@ThatssomebadhatHarry

Hahaha. That’s me too! Whenever someone tries to stop me. I just say I already donate to the particular charity 😂😂😂

He’s only apologetic because you have him on camera. Report him.

He only apologised because you have evidence of him being a harassing eejit. Report him to the charity. He is their representative and should act in a suitable manner. Don't go soft because he said sorry.

Don’t feel bad!! That’s your female socialisation kicking in! Fuck him, report, report, report. He didn’t feel bad when he harassed you.

Absolutely report him. He knew it was unwanted and he carried on, repeatedly pushing the boundaries and harassing you. He will be doing this to other women too.

Of course he’s going to pass it off as a misunderstanding now you’ve filmed him. It absolutely was not.

“Oi legs” is totally unacceptable as is following you.

It's worth raising with the charity even if he was apologetic after you called him out. It's important for the charity to know if someone is behaving in a way that puts their reputation, and consequently their ability to provide services, at risk.

Here's how

www.fundraisingregulator.org.uk/complaints/make-complaint

To be fair he was sort of apologetic after I explained why he was making me feel uncomfortable, now I feel a bit hesitant to report his behaviour to his employer? He tried to play it off as a ‘misunderstanding’

No No Fucking NO!

A thousand times no!

The only misunderstanding was that he thought he could get away with intimidating you repeatedly.

There is no room for misunderstanding that you weren't interested in talking to him. No misunderstanding happened.

Please please report him now. State the facts of his behaviour every incident, when, how long, what distance he followed you, how close to you he got, what he said when you told him no or fuck off. Please report to both the charity and the council.

No decent charity wants him representing them. And no other woman he is harassing or going to harass on the street would want you to stay quiet. Report him, please!

That’s your female socialisation kicking in!

That’s literally it! I feel guilty about this man possibly being reprimanded by his employer (and even wondered if I’m overreacting) whilst he had no problem repeatedly invading my personal space and making unwanted comments

I’m definitely going to report to his employer and the fundraising regulator, thanks! Thinking about it even if it was a ‘misunderstanding’ and he was just being ‘friendly’, he doesn’t know me from Adam so why does he think it’s appropriate to banter with a complete stranger like this?

@Coffeeandchocolate9 thanks for your post! I would have definitely missed that level of detail out. He followed me for minutes the first time, and was mere inches away from me as he tried blocking my path to leave

If he didn't have a charity lanyard on how would his behaviour be seen.

Aggressive sexual harassment.

There is no misundsrstanding. Oi legs. You look naughty. Following you. Persisting even when told to fuck off.

Just no.

Yes do report.

I always pretend to be on my phone when i see a few people in matching jackets/hoodies on the horizon

I'd have accidentally umbrellaed him in the eye.

Yes, as the others have said, he was only trying to guilt you out of reporting him. Whoever he works for won't be impressed that he's at best annoying and at worst intimidating random women on the street.

Don't feel sorry for him!

Report him, he only apologised because you were recording him!

Report report report. If he gets into trouble it’s his own fault. It’s excellent that you have a video showing his behaviour so he can’t minimise it.