AIBU to ask for a £10 back

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Last month, I went on a holiday with a group of friends. I paid for the big shop and everyone paid me back except one person. I don't mind asking for people for money when it is owed to me but does it sound petty as it is only £10? It seems unfair on the others who did pay if I don't ask her.

Nope. Never too late to ask for what's rightfully owed. This is how CF's get off the hook.

'Any chance of that tenner from the holiday shopping please?"

Really no big deal.

Group email to everyone "Thanks to everyone who has paid their share of the shop. Please could those who haven't do so asap as I'm still out of pocket."

And then follow up in a week if she still hasn't.

I probably wouldn't ask but it would cloud my judgement of her and I'd be on alert for any future cheeky fuckery behaviour.

“Hi X, you still owe me £10 from the big shop on holiday, I need it by Friday. Thanks x”

I hate this thing where if you can afford to write off a tenner, then you should do so. I would be mortified if I'd forgotten to pay a friend money I owed so I vote you text her and say"Hi can you transfer me the tenner for the groceries from hols here's my bank details. Thanks "

Reminded me to chase from our own ladies trip a few weeks ago. We ended up paying for various things and one friend kept a list to tot up at the end and I'm hopeful I may be due £10-20. Not a huge amount but if it wasn't sorted out I'd be much less likely to book the ubers or settle up the bill at the time.

"Only" a tenner?

Some of us could feed a family of 4 for a week for a tenner (if they liked pulses & pasta) LOL

I think this is a terribly British thing; I had several Scandi friends who had no problem in asking for payment for shared meals etc.

I would ask for the £10 .

I’ve always been the generous one and let things like this go to many times to count now . Thing is it just reinforces their behaviour as they think it’s acceptable . It isn’t acceptable .
I would now definitely ask for it back .

As others have said if it is a genuine mistake she will be apologetic

Of course you should remind them.

I don't understand what is rude about asking for the money back. It's rude that she is putting you in the position because she is either too lazy or thinks if she holds out you will write it off.
I don't think you should discount it because its been too long or it is just a small amount. The only reason its been so long is that she is a CF. Everyone else paid up and had no problem with it. If you don't at least try to ask then you are demonstrating to her that you can be easily pushed. If it is a genunine mistake on her part, she will be glad that you gave her an opportunity to put it right and your friendship will be the better for it.
I think @bridgetreilly 's response was a good one.
It's not rude or petty or penny pinching to ask for money back when it was agreed by all. It is rude and petty to keep dodging the repayment. Be confident to ask as you are in the right about this.

If you think she is struggling, that of course is a different matter.