Who should clean up?

[thecatinthetwat]

If someone visits you with a toddler and that toddler trashes your house (which they tend to do), who should clean up?

The parent of the toddler, at least a little bit or you the host, it’s your house, your mess.

Aibu to think the parent should make a bit of effort to clean up after a toddler?

I’ve got young kids too by the way, if that makes a difference. They’re just over the tipping every box out over the floor stage, but still exhausting.

The visiting parent should clean up, with a bit of help from you.

I would expect the visiting parent to help, eg put all lego back in the lego boxes, game pieces back in the boxes, cars in the garage etc. Especially if their child made all of the mess!

Phew, I was starting to think I’d got this horribly wrong.

It’s happened to me quite a few times now, with several different people- I can think of at least 4!

I always try and tidy up after mine at someone else’s house. I also try and stop them from trashing the joint too

Visiting parent should always help.

I would expect the visiting parent to help at least a little bit, though obviously I would finish when they had left.

Visiting parent cleans up. Your child, your mess!

Visiting parent

Generally I tell the visiting parent not to bother when they start tidying up. Just because they've got to deal with getting the crazy toddler into shoes and out the door (and then for the rest of the day) and I know where stuff goes and they don't. I like an attempt to help out though, it's only polite.
However. If it's a one off then maybe it was a rough day and the parent just needed to get the fuck home.

I would appreciate the help but would probably tell them not to worry, if it was my child I would at least start to tidy up after myself.

Thanks guys, good to know.

I understand if the kid is having a melt down or bad day or whatever, of course. But during a standard and reasonable visit, I expect the parent to make some attempt at clearing up the destruction caused by their own child.