My daughter usually has school meals but was on a trip last week and needed a packed lunch. She was at her dads the night before so he made it. He gave her
A sausage roll
A whole packet of salami
Apple
2 drumstick lollies
A packet of cake sprinkles
Crisps
I messaged him to say it was an awful lunch and he blamed me for being away. He made no acknowledgement that it was really unhealthy.
My daughter has enamel hypoplasis so her teeth are particularly sensitive and she's not really allowed to eat sweets and particularly not lollies. This isn't the first time he's ignored my requests not to give her lollies but he doesn't seem to care. I was also concerned about the salt in all that salami. I know it's only one lunch but it's just an indication of how he does the bare minimum for his daughter.
Am I overreacting? And any suggestions how i get him to listen in future? It's like he does the total opposite of what i ask just to get at me even though it affects her.
For some background he also does very little homework with her, refused to take her to the swimming lessons i paid for and won't let her go to parties on his weekend