Not sure I still enjoy this friendship

[Blueandlilac]

I've known her for 4 years but she lives abroad now so only see her 1/2 times a year.
I know she's very unhappy in herself and she comes across as very insecure and cynical a lot of the time.
Expressions like 'I am really happy for you, that's amazing' are completely alien to her.
When I told her i'd just extended a year's contract she replied 'I see'.

Ive been seeing a guy and he has gone away for 3 weeks. She told me that him having sex with others over there was 'normal' because he's in 'another country' and 'wants to make the most of it'.
I told her not every single man is sex-obsessed and that you can 'make the most of a country' without having to sleep with anything that moves..
If I ever tell her about a guy she'll just say ' he doesnt sound good' or 'be careful' 'dont get your hopes up'.
She also tried to persuade a mutual friend of ours to dump her boyfriend.
When another friend of ours had a ONS with a guy at a party, she commented that this girl 'behaved like a slag' even though both were single.. However, when her own best friend cheated on her bf by having sex with another guy she said 'she gave into the guy last night, it's hard when youre abroad'.
I used to try and make plans with her on a Monday/Tuesday for a Saturday and shed say 'it's too early to tell you what i'm doing yet' even though she had no kids/bf/commitment.
Once, I was talking about a guy whod just dumped me that very day and she 'banned' me from talking about him the same day, saying 'move on'. I have let her rant on about men as much as she wants. Once, I was moving house that day, she'd messaged me about a guy so I wrote 'sorry, i'm busy ill reply later' and she sent me 7 thumbs up.
When I got hair extensions instead of saying it looked nice she just asked why I didn't do the fringe .
As I say I know she's very unhappy, she has family problems and is desperate to settle down and meet someone.
I just feel like she lacks any sort of warmth, she's so cynical about everything and a little too harsh sometimes.
It's good to be honest but a bit of kindness goes a long way. Or am I being too sensitive ?

No i'm just giving examples of how she is, it's true that honesty is the best policy, I just find her too negative and harsh but I didn't know if I was maybe being too sensitive. But if I am feeling this way, I should cut the friendship regardless of what others think.

No one else in your friendship group has stayed in touch with her. She can’t be bothered to come and visit you when she’s close by. You’re just interesting entertainment and a punch bag when she’s bored.

What's the question? You don't like her, so stop talking with her, done. It looks like you just wanted a moan, which is fine, but don't dress it up as being somehow torn when you clearly aren't.

“I used to try and make plans with her on a Monday/Tuesday for a Saturday and shed say 'it's too early to tell you what i'm doing yet' even though she had no kids/bf/commitment.”

She sounds joyless and cynical in general but this bit sort of sums you up as well, you sound like a bit of a needy friend who wants things to be about you all the time.

I don't think that's exactly needy. She was seeing another friend around 4 times a week. This happened on a few occasions, and the point was to illustrate that she was first waiting to see if something better came along.

Why are you jealous of other friends when you don't even like this woman?

Ugh no, she sounds awful and as if she wants to cloud the joy out of other people's experiences. Fairly toxic friendship so I would just drop it. Life's too short.