****to think my dp would get off his arse...

[fransmom]

....and take out the washing and actually(shock, horror) bring in the other lot before its out there for the night?????

he hasn't doen any house work at all today. i feel like it's beeen left for me to do because i'm on a day off. even when i'm at work, i still have to do the majority unless i'm really ill.

and he's never touched rthe windows snce we moved in, he has hardly ever dusted and when he does its a dry dust (i have to damp dust because i have asthma) arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggghhhhhhhh

i just wanted to let off steam

tia

ah you need to train him!

dh used ot be like this when i was a sahm but since i started workign full time i soon made sure he got rid of those habits. one thing i have learnt is he will only do whats on his list so i leave a seemingly never ending list so that he doesn't run out of thigns to do!
hey i have to do all the housewrok on my day off, just working for the nhs means my day off usually isn't a saturday or sunday, so why should he be allowed ot not do any hosework just becasue his days off are saturday and sunday?

Get a cleaner

Not unreasonable, just unrealistic maybe! Looks like you've got yourself a 'traditional' man, i.e. lazy and allergic to all housework.

aaaaand breath

I dust with baby wipes because of asthma

i just said that the hot water was on, so that he could do the washing up. and guess what? he only turned round and said that you lied to her! uhh?????? apparently i said to dd that i was going to do the washing up cos it wasn't fair on daddy that he has to do the washing up all the time!!!!!!!!!!!

WTF???????

he hasn't done a tap of bloody houisework all bloody nite and now he lying on his fat arse watching his programme. when wa shte last time i watched on eof my prgos? i am gettingrealluy wound up now

if he wanted a traditional wife then he should find someone else. he has to do his share or bugger off.

btw, no he doesn't do all the washing up all the time. f'in git

me and yushould head out and leave the mto it
my dh is being ranted about on another thread!

ia lso made some scones - he got another think coming if he thinks he can get his hands on em. little red hen and all that! (is that the right story??)

aibu?

good gfrief he got of fhis arse and is now making a noise in the kitchen.

unless he making himself a drink?

Did you ever discuss and come to an agreement about who does what in the house?

yes we did. he agreed that whoever does the cooking, then the other does the washing. fair enough especially when pans are yucky

but that's a good idea so will have to sit down with him at some point and put ti down formally maybe.

asying that howver, i did get a wonderfully long lie in this morning and breakfast in bed! so maybe something i said last night sunk in or me leaving him to get on with it and refusing to react by being upset set him thinking.

btw, the scones were horrible - very dry so don't know what went wrong there!

my DH has never dusted in the 5 yrs we've been together. In those same 5 yrs he's hoovered less than half a dozen times, never ironed anything, bathed our 4yr old twin sons (completely by himself) only twice, reads their bedtime story approx once a month (but not until being asked by me to take a turn...usually when I'm exhausted or unwell).

He does wash the pots about twice a month and he will empty the bin...if asked...

His excuse? He works 5 days a week ...and I don't (nope ladies, running around after 4yr old twin sons and being on call for 24/7 does not count as work in his eyes!!)

And yet, when I was pregnant with my twins, I worked 3 shifts..he was out of work at that time...and yet I STILL had to come home and do ALL the housework.

I asked him recently where it is written that when a woman has a job she STILL has to do all the housework etc but, when a man has a job he gets to use it as an excuse to do eff all when he gets home from work... of course, I got no reply.

that's cos there weren't a sensible one. men[rolling eyes emoticon]