To be dreading leaving DD in childcare

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ZogorElmer · 20/09/2019 19:52

I return to work in January when DD will be 9 months old. I am absolutely dreading it, I just can’t bare to leave her. I have a 2 year old DS and although I didn’t want to return to work after having him I didn’t feel quite like this. He was quite a difficult baby so I think I was ready for a break but DD is the most amazing baby and I just don’t want to leave her.

Please tell me it will be ok! I’m only going to be working 2 days so I know I’m lucky, but I don’t want to waste the next 2 months off worrying about work.

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solidgoldbaby · 20/09/2019 20:05

Of course it will be ok.

You’ve done it once. I often think that the people who struggle the most with leaving their child in a childcare setting are those who benefit the most from the time apart

ScrubDubdub · 20/09/2019 20:09

Silly question, do you have to? Or do you think you should?

Honestly, my baby is 8 months and we have planned for me to go back when he's 3, I cant leave him either but I can financially do it.
Unless I do get bored/change my mind before then.

This is probably not very helpful and believe me I dont think everyone should be a SAHM.

It's just my gut reaction to you post

ScrubDubdub · 20/09/2019 20:09

Just to add though, of course it will be okay!

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ZogorElmer · 21/09/2019 04:40

Yes I do have to, we need me to be earning to contribute to the finances.

DD will be going to the same childminder as DS and so will be absolutely fine, I just hate the thought of leaving her.

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bbgxd · 21/09/2019 05:33

You'll be fine, most parents feel this way. Once she settles in a week or two, it'll just be a normal part of your routine and you'll be glad to get out without her, socialise with colleagues again etc.

tjames100 · 21/09/2019 05:35

I think the idea of this may be worse than the reality. Once you have returned to work it will probably be fine, after a bit of readjusting of course. It's perfectly natural to feel the way you do...

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ZogorElmer · 21/09/2019 13:49

@bbgxd very little opportunity to socialise with colleagues in my job. I get a ten minute morning break and 25 minutes for lunch but usually pop to the toilet quick and then work through.

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bbgxd · 21/09/2019 17:01

That's sucks but it's still good to be out the house I suppose

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