How do I deal with him

[Wouldyoubearsed]

Figured out that I was being used as an ego boost for a couple of years. I thought we were friends with an undercurrent of something else . The fishing and the dawning stopped gradually only to find out he had a girlfriend . I didn’t say anything . I was hurt and embarrassed as we work together . He started asking all about my love life for the first time ever after meeting his girlfriend. I shut him down . Now he asks every day. I still ignore so he changed his tactics and has started to talk about her all the time , presumably to make me jealous. Help me deal with this. We are in a cramped office and I am also angry too. Really annoyed. What do I do thanks

Get over him.

put laxatives in his tea?

Sorry OP, he sounds like a complete bellend. I think the only thing to do is smile sweetly, ignore him and agree with him that she sounds just lovely.

Or if he keeps asking about your lovelife, just say its been a bit slow as of late, but as soon as the builders are finished renovating your sex dungeon you expect it to pick back up again.

Tell him very clearly that your love life is none of his business and that he is not to ask you about again. You’re in the office, not the pub, and he doesn’t have the right to be intrusive and creepy.

He is, however, perfectly entitled to mention his girlfriend - he isn’t obliged to keep her a secret in the office just because you used to fancy him.

THanks. Of course he is entitled to discuss her in the office but he doesn’t, he comes into my space and discusses it with me . She is the offices best kept secret! I do like the laxative idea though!

Oh he's probably keeping her quiet so he can still try it on at the Xmas party.

Play him at his own game - ask him hundreds of questions about her. All the time. Loudly.

What a great idea! Think I’ll do that. I’m really pissed off. Don’t even know why!

Is it because he's strung you along and is still trying to string you along?

My first response seemed harsh but it's true. You're worth so much more.

Of course he is entitled to discuss her in the office but he doesn’t, he comes into my space and discusses it with me. She is the offices best kept secret!

Oh, I see - well, in that case, he's a dickhead. I do think you need to be very clear with him that you don't want him coming over to talk about your love life, his love life or indeed anyone's bloody love life and that you want him to stop so you can move just move on.

If that doesn't work and he continues to pester you, is there a manager you could have a discreet chat with? Could you explain what has happened between you in the past (well, a clean version of that anyway) and that now that is over you would like to draw a line under it, but that he is continuing to harass you at work and making you feel uncomfortable?