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To feel unable to enjoy the 'in between' bits of life

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ShhhTheDogIsSleeping · 20/09/2019 09:59

I've been suffering the past couple of years with anxiety and depression and was put on Sertraline about 8 months ago.

It's helped massively. I no longer have anxiety attacks, sleepless nights, thoughts of harming myself etc... and to be honest, I'd say I don't feel depressed anymore.

But I still feel unable to just enjoy the every day of life. I feel restless, thee only way I can describe it is that I feel in a rush to do everything. To get married (which I am), to have a nice home, to have a child etc... I can't seem to just relax and go with the flow. I feel like I'm constantly waiting for the next thing. The thought of this being 'it' scares me.

Does anyone have any tips for enjoying the in between bits of life? The times where not very much seems to be happening.

OP posts:
PlinkPlink · 20/09/2019 11:30

Have you tried meditation?

Headspace is a good app apparently to get started.
I do mine with Malla beads and a Buddhist chant in my ears. It's bliss.

I've found that meditation can really help to quieten my mind and just appreciate being in the here and now. It helps me put things in perspective too.

Also... have you tried getting outside? Bear with me...

Some of the most lovely, chilled out moments I've had, where I feel so appreciative of everything around me and content to just be in the moment, are where I've been sat on the beach with my OH, relaxing, having a drink maybe, just enjoying the scenery.

HeadLikeAFuckinOrange · 20/09/2019 11:45

I also take Sertraline OP, however it is for PTSD not depression, but some of my symptoms were similar to yours; anxiety, panic attacks, self harm and insomnia.
I agree the Sertraline has helped a great deal.

I agree with pp, about getting outside. For me, nothing is worse for being alone in your thoughts than doing the same thing in the same house, every day.

Would writing down a plan help?
Even just small things helped me, because with no plan I was just coasting day-to-day feeling overwhelmed.

Maybe go to a coffee shop, a pub or café? Take a magazine and headphones with you.

Check the weeks weather report, once there's a clear day, make a sandwich and some snacks and grab a picnic blanket, head to your local park or beach with a book.

I'm unsure of your financial situation, but can you spare a bit of money each week, and once a month look forward to getting a train to somewhere new? It doesn't have to be far, just look to see what a nearby town or city has on offer that interests you. I find this also stops me dwelling in the present (which can be very monotonous), and gives you focus forward.

I don't know whether any of these things will work for you but they all have (and continue to do) for me. Flowers

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