Feel like a toy....AIBU to feel like this?

[Mumaof2girls]

Hi all.
Been with partner 11 years we have 2 daughters. Long story short. I just feel like his play thing. There is no fun anymore. No affection not even much conversation tbh. We both work and are alot of financial stress so I'm not complaining about not being taken out or having money spent on things ect just that fact that all he ever does is grope and touch and all he goes on about is sex sex sex. There is no inbetweeners theres no just sit together and chill watch a movie or have a chat. He hasn't even offered to cook a meal in like 5 years. Theres never any effort on his part unless its sex. And I just dont want it anymore. I dont know if I have just lost the connection with him or am I just being unreasonable?
Thank u all. Xx

Have you talked to him about this?

YANBU, his attitude is really not attractive.

Yanbu to feel like this. However it won't have any chance of changing without communicating with him effectively.

Make some time when you won't be interrupted and talk to him. Try not to assign blame. Use lots of 'I statements': "I feel like we have lost our connection". "I would like us to talk more." "I need affection that isn't always sexual."

Come up with an action plan that you can agree on. Maybe a month where you both make an effort to be physically affectionate but ban sex. Agree to make time for yourselves as a couple outside the house.