Hi all,
Not sure what to do... I had a baby 6 months ago and me and the dad have been together for seven years and are married.
In the past two months I have found out he gave his phone number to another woman whilst on a friend's stag do... I then found out he has had multiple lap dances, which we had talked about before and I'd said whilst I'm not keen on it its the lies that cause a bigger problem. Then I dropped him at a friend's and when I rang to find out when he would be home, turns out he had allegedly gone out with his former work friends without even messaging me to tell me, I heard a woman in the background and when I asked who he was with there was only one name that I recognised. All of this I have found out and he has not told me about.
Tonight I go on his phone to check what LO should wear to bed as I left my phone downstairs and I always Google it to check - unlocked his phone to see that he'd been messaging a girl from work. I didn't say anything initially as I was shocked, went to the bathroom and when I can out asked him about it... Bearing in mind he tried to take the phone off me whilst I was doing it with the premise of him not knowing how to check so I said I'd show him.... Took his phone off me after I had checked the clothing situation and was on it a bit, I swear I'd seen the message on WhatsApp. When I confronted him he said it was innocent chat with a friend so I asked to see it and he opened a Facebook thread which was a bit flirty and he'd responded to the messages with a x at the end and todays messages had xx on them. It bothers me that he didn't tell me about it for starters and that after everything we've been trying to work through he would prioritise this over our marriage. Not only that the majority of these messages were exchanged on our date night the other night when I had made us dinner.
Have kicked him out tonight but don't think I can see a future with us... if he's prioritising messaging another woman after us being in a bad place and he told me she knows we've been going through a tough patch then don't know how I am ever going to trust him. Feel so heartbroken that he would do this.