To feel entirely sad :-(

[Ipadannie]

I am fast approaching 48 and have pcos. In my 20s and 30s my periods were really erratic and despite lots of trying dh and I never conceived.

Since the start of my 40s my cycle was a lot more regular but for the first time in years I haven't had a period for weeks. I know its just my age and the menopause kicking in, but I feel so sad and angry that any hope I ever had of conceiving is gone.

Aibu to just be feeling entirely sorry for myself? It's brought to a head a whole lot of feelings and thoughts I thought I had dealt with years ago.

Yanbu at all.

YANB at all U.

This is very hard, OP. It’s understandable that this has brought up all those feelings. Be kind to yourself and take the time to process.

No unreasonable at all. You suffered a massive loss and it's normal for difficult feelings to resurface on occasions. Sending you a virtual hug.

YANBU at all. It’s hard.

YANBU in anyway. Coming to the end of what should have been your fertile years is really hard when you had hopes of conceiving. Be good to yourself.

Thank you all for kindness. I'm hoping the sadness will pass

I spoke with a colleague who went through this.

She said she was devastated when she realised she had lost the opportunity to ever conceive and she really struggled with it.

She wasted years in a relationship with a politician who treated her like shit then married the person who came along after her.

She eventually bought a couple of cats. She was very settled and in a similar position to many women her age - except without the never ending obligation to grown up children.

In the end, she was ok with it.