To think it's odd DDs friend is copying her constantly?

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I fully get that there are bigger worries to have in life but.... DD10 has a friend, they are both in same class at school, gymnastics and drama club.
I'm pretty good friends with the mum, often go out for drinks etc and girls sleepover at each other's houses regularly.
Is it weird that literally every single thing my DD gets, she gets a week later? From trainers to gym leotards to pens for school she gets the identical thing! I keep telling my DD that it's the best form of flattery etc but I can't help but think the mum is a bit nuts to constantly buy her child things instantly just because her pal has them!
I know they are little and it's not a big deal but it's getting a bit weird!

Hannah is that you?!?

Lol my daughter is 10 likes to copy everything her bff does. Unlike the mum in your post, I do try my very best to help my daughter be an individual, but if her friend has it, she needs it! I don't spend extra money to copy the other child though, but when my daughter needs a new item, she will request the same as bff. I don't think her bff minds it?!? Her mum has never indicated that it bothers her, and I do try and discourage it as much as I can....

It's very normal. Friend is likely insecure and her mum will be doing what she can to ease that.

Haha nope not Hannah! I get that kids re like this (especially girls). It's just getting a bit much! Like constantly the second my DD gets something new she turns up with the same!

@Onceuponacheesecake I think she is a bit insecure actually. I feel a bit awful posting about her. My DD has a good group of friends and this child only has my DD.

This is very normal I think.

Normal but annoying?

I know fully grown women who do this. Annoying, yes. Nothing you can do about it. Repeat 'imitation is the sincerest form of flattery' ad nauseam.

I think it’s a bit odd for you to be bothered by it. They’re kids. Kids do weird things because their friends are at the centre of their little universe. She obviously admires your dd very much and wants to be ‘cool’ like her.

@DariaMorgendorffer yeah I guess so. My Dd is even getting a bit fed up now. It's not a big deal I know but can't understand the other mum just constantly buying her child something because her friend has it!

Normal and annoying.

I think you just have to continue telling your dd that imitation is the sincerely form of flattery and encourage her to keep being her own person. the other kid must be quite insecure to need to copy all the time and her mum is probably just trying to help her fit in.

Why do you care? Why does it matter? Your daughter can still be your precious unique little darling even if her best friend and her have the same Frozen socks.

Things tend to be quite popular and faddy - meaning that your child is likely to be copying someone else anyway!

She's really not precious or unique at all. The trends are pretty normal. But it's the instant way she presents with the exact same things my DD has. It's weird.

My DD is nearly 20 and has a friend who still does this. Copies her clothing and make up style all the time.

@Ursula I can see these two being like this!
I'm glad she had a buddy, honestly. However, the teacher last year separated them as she was concerned they couldn't make friends with others before they started secondary.

I would feel a bit exasperated at this too, OP.

A little bit would be fine - everything is claustrophobic. I think you need to 1) not tell her where stuff came from 2) speak to the mother about DD not wanting to have everything exactly the same.

TBH it is the mother’s fault not the child so I would try hard to be tolerant of it as far as I could. But definitely annoying.

@PersonaNonGarter one thing was a gymnastics leotard my mum bought from Amazon. My DD wouldn't have known where it was from but within a week the friend had one identical! God knows how they found it! This morning she turned up to school with the same shoes as my DD. It's so so strange 🤷🏼‍♀️