Is he being a twat?

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I had a thing with a man for a year . It fizzled out as his family and mine were difficult about us and it got to be too much hassle . He moved on , met a girl and is seeing her for some months now . I stayed single . We still meet in our social group every week and there is still chemistry and no hard feelings . He’s been asking if I am seeing a new man. I’m not but he is convinced I am. He has started dropping his girlfriends name and their plans into conversation with me ( but not in group) this is new . He then told me of his plans to travel to my home town in a few weeks ( 300 mile round trip for him ) and all their plans there . I felt it was a little insensitive especially as it’s a small place with no obvious occasion or attractions there . He just picked where I live for a weekend away with his girlfriend as he thought she’d enjoy it . AIBU on this .

Why are you still communicating with this fuckwit? Block and move on.

I meet him as part of my hobby every week and my hobby is more important than him

Tell him you don't give a shit about his girlfriend or their plans and he can keep that rubbish to himself.

Do you think i am being unreasonable here. Is he being a twat ? Thanks ther part of me says he’s free to go where he wants to go . Not my business .

He sounds like he’s trying to make you jealous.

He's a dickhead, keep going to your hobby but stop with the conversations with him, if you do have to speak keep is as polite chit chat and nothing more, make your excuses to get away from him as soon as you can and don't get drawn into a conversation. He's obviously trying to wind you up, and doesn't want you to move on but doesn't mind rubbing your face in it about his new GF.
Sounds like you had a lucky escape to me!

You are definitely not BU. He's been a prick.

I am hurt more than jealous. I too thought it was a bit mean but then asked myself if I was being too sensitive .

He’s making it up. I’d put money on it.

He sounds like a massive twat and whatever the reason was for breaking up with him you’ve dodged a bullet there. Pity his poor girlfriend if he is obsessing over you.

No he told me where they were staying and exactly what they’re going to do for the weekend so he has it booked and paid . It’s very deliberate isn’t it . Think I got him wrong. Had him down as a nice guy .

He’s not obsessing over me . He clearly has no respect for me though! His girlfriend is clueless I am sure of it .

Treating me like that is sure to push me further away from him .

He wants you to admit that you still like him. It's an ego thing for him. I once had an ex message me out of the blue for relationship advice. I just told him I wasn't the right person to ask. I would just smile and say have a nice weekend. He will soon get bored.

I feel Like asking why he would choose my town to go on a dirty weekend away . It’s dosrespectful

It’s over. Ignore all the attempts to get you to re-engage. Project the attitude that you don’t care what he does with his free time or who he does it with.

It sounds like he thinks you have a guy so he’s trying to make you jealous/be a bit of a twat by talking rubbish about his.

He’s a twat. But coming to your town (if he even is) isn’t disrespectful, it’s just daft.

He’s trying to get a reaction so he feels relevant. He isn’t. So ignore. He’ll hate that way more!

He wants you to bite back and ask or comment on the town, that's why he's picked it and told you.
Don't give him what he wants, rise above it. If he mentions it again, tell him you hope he has a great time, maybe recommend a nice bar or restaurant and watch his face drop!

Do not ask him and do not say he is being disrespectful.

That would be giving him exactly the reaction he is looking for.

He wants to get to you and you saying that would show that he had.

Just feign indifference and continue to do so no matter what. In fact, unless you live somewhere lots of people choose to go for romantic weekends I would be more likely to say 'Goodness, how boring, I bet she's impressed(grin)'

Do not let him see it bothers you at all. He is pathetic.

Do you see him every week at your hobby group? How far away does he actually live?

He’s a twat, yes. Stop engaging with him.

See him most weekends for a full day on sundays and weekends away some 3/4 times per year persuing our mutual hobby . His home place from my home place is 150 miles away . Think London to Cardiff .