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Original poster

New manager keeps disturbing me with irrelevant things every time I’m on my phone :/

579 replies

Ghostpost · 19/09/2019 15:49

I was employed before her, and have been here a couple of months. We’re in a research type environement and everything is really laid back with phones, work hours, days off etc. Everyone knows work gets done, deadlines are met so everyone is happy that the place is so flexible around family life.

She’s been here 3 days and has mentioned twice if I have enough work to keep me busy (😒).. I’m an adult and I know what I need to do. And although it would be really easy to take the piss here, I have been working incredibly hard to make a difference to our department.

I’ve noticed today she keeps coming and disturbing me every time I’m on my phone reading twitter or whatever. She’s making me feel like a school child not being allowed on my phone. She’s looked over at me a few times already whilst I’m typing this.

If I wasn’t working she would have a point to make, but I refuse to be micromanaged like this, as I’m not a child. It’s making me uncomfortable.

OP posts:
Aridane · 22/09/2019 12:51

OP - you’ve been clocked by your manager- at least try to be discreet!! eg Mumsnet from your laptop and not your phone

Charley50 · 22/09/2019 12:58

In my work we all look at personal stuff on phone and PCs occasionally, but I wouldn't do it blatantly in front of a manager, even the one I had who was on Facebook all the time, and didn't try to hide it.

Original poster
Ghostpost · 22/09/2019 13:27

It’s funny how I’ve had to read shit personal attacks like the one posted by @Aridane above all the way through, yet I’m blasted for calling people backward minded! So it’s ok for those of you who disagree with me to say shit as much as you like, but the minute I react, I’m called stubborn and childish!! I’ve been called all sorts on here. I was told to fuck off, yet my post was the one deleted. The mind set of some of you is disgusting and vile. I’m glad I don’t work with people like you.

OP posts:
titchy · 22/09/2019 13:43

I’m glad I don’t work with people like you.

Rest assured the feeling is mutual.

WhizzingFizzbee · 22/09/2019 13:48

‘I’m glad I don’t work with people like you’

You don’t work though 🤣

Scentsandsensible · 22/09/2019 14:07

I’m glad I don’t work with people like you

And I can assure you - you never will as you wouldn’t get anywhere near my business with your attitude

Biancadelrioisback · 22/09/2019 14:24

OP I still don't understand why you don't just power through your work without looking at your phone and just go home early?
If you've got time to play on your phone during the working day, aren't you just padding out your working day unnecessarily?

Biancadelrioisback · 22/09/2019 14:25

I work really hard from 9-5. I will not do work at home unless I have slacked off during the day. 99% of the time I leave work at work.

Reallynowdear · 22/09/2019 14:26

OP, you seem angry.

Your attitude is coming across as one of a petulant child. Why did you ask for opinions when you're unwilling to discuss them rationally when they differ from yours?

Is this how you act at work too?

ThatCurlyGirl · 22/09/2019 14:37

I’m glad I don’t work with people like you

I wouldn't employ someone with your attitude so we are on the same page Smile

You've reacted like a teenager being told to put their phone away at the dinner table.

Like someone else said if you want to shirk work then that's your prerogative but don't throw your toys out of the pram when your managers pull you up on it.

spanglydangly · 22/09/2019 14:52

You sound a petulant, irresponsible, lazy,, non team player. I'm glad I don't have to either work with you or mange you.

Grow up and start acting like an adult.

spanglydangly · 22/09/2019 14:54

It’s funny how I’ve had to read shit personal attacks like the one posted by @Aridane above all the way through, yet I’m blasted for calling people backward minded! So it’s ok for those of you who disagree with me to say shit as much as you like, but the minute I react, I’m called stubborn and childish!! I’ve been called all sorts on here. I was told to fuck off, yet my post was the one deleted. The mind set of some of you is disgusting and vile. I’m glad I don’t work with people like you.

Dear god what a load of fucking bullshit you talk! You e been vile the whole way through this thread!

Ginger1982 · 22/09/2019 15:06

*I'm glad I don't work with people like you.
*
Think we all think that about you too tbh...

Puzzledandpissedoff · 22/09/2019 15:09

if you want to shirk work then that's your prerogative but don't throw your toys out of the pram when your managers pull you up on it

Exactly this ^^. We can all try to advise, but in the end the only people whose views of OP really matter are the employers, and the employer clearly isn't happy

Whether to do something about that or just whine and strop is entirely up to OP, but choices involve consequences ... something worth remembering at all times, but especially in the workplace if money's needed to pay the bills

ThatCurlyGirl · 22/09/2019 15:33

It would be amazing if your manager is on MN and recognised this, waited til you were having a break on MN and just typed "look into conference room A" then pulled the blinds apart to reveal herself 😂

isshoes · 22/09/2019 15:33

I would echo what others have said in that I too work in a very relaxed environment, and I am a pretty laid-back manager, but I do think you are BU OP. I understand why you feel as you do - if I suddenly got a new manager who was much stricter than what I am used to, and who picked me up on things like checking my phone etc, I would feel annoyed and offended too. However, i do think every 10-15 minutes is excessive, I do think watching Netflix all day whilst ‘working from home’ is taking liberties, and I don’t think your manager is BU to be checking you have enough work to do if she can see you constantly on your phone. As the manager, she gets to call the shots, provided that she isn’t being unreasonable, and the fact that you have previously enjoyed a more laid-back environment doesn’t mean she’s in the wrong.

Elderflower14 · 22/09/2019 16:05

You don't work though. You are on your phone doing everything BUT working!!

Aridane · 22/09/2019 16:20

It’s funny how I’ve had to read shit personal attacks like the one posted by @Aridane**

Lol - in my deleted post, I was actually saying that I thought what another poster was posting was unnecessarily extreme - ie never looking at phone at all, it being locked away by choice and possibly not even contactable in emergency

Yes I said I thought were taking the piss and a waste of space at work (but more concisely) - but nothing more than 99% of posters have been saying.

You will miss your lovely job when you lose it

StCharlotte · 22/09/2019 21:52

I agree with Aridane and would suggest that now your manager is - rightly or wrongly - monitoring you, at least be subtle about it! Play the game. At least act like her "idea" of a model employee and then she'll leave you to tweet in peace.

woodhill · 22/09/2019 21:57

Definitely, don't give her reason to pull you up, play the game 😁

Littlepeak34 · 22/09/2019 22:05

Looking forward to update tomorrow!

longwayoff · 22/09/2019 22:46

OP you may think you don't work with people like us but I assure you that you do. And those people will be silently cheering on new manager, as working alongside an entitled slacker with few social skills is very annoying indeed.

JAMMFYesPlease · 22/09/2019 23:18

I'll say exactly what I've said to my DS who was told off in a job for checking her phone too much....

You can go a few hours without scrolling Twitter or Facebook. Looking at your phone is not giving your eyes a break. I work at a computer all the time and breaks are looking out of a window or getting up to make a cup of tea to stretch my legs. It's the 20/20/20 rule. Google it (but not at work).

Why do people think they're entitled to do something because it was a status quo with a former manager. A new manager has an idea to make employees more productive. Maybe try it instead of moaning about how its slavery (you really want to read about slavery in the Victorian period if you think not being allowed to check your phone every 15 minutes is slavery).

Oh and this is definitely not jealously. I adore the job I have. Grow up and stop being so entitled or you might not have a job to check Twitter every 15 minutes to go to!

Gertrudesgarden · 23/09/2019 08:56

Why are you so resistant to doing what your manager asks you to do, OP? I know its different from previous manager, but by your own admission, you've only worked there a few weeks. It's not like it's a habit created over years or decades. A few weeks behaving one way now has to change, because you now work for someone else. Do as you're asked, knuckle down and you may actually be kept on.....

Gertrudesgarden · 23/09/2019 08:58

PS I'd be giving you your p45 if your attitude on here matches your workplace attitude. Nobody's got time for that shit.

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