Party date that excludes 1 child - HELP!!!

[stilldazed]

DS is having a small party 6 children all confirmed for Sunday afternoon. Just looked at the weather forecast and it's terrible on Sunday (storms/rain---we are not in the UK)

I just send a message on the chat to ask if we could change it to Saturday (beautiful weather).

The party is outside - laser tag, so weather dependent.

All but 1 child confirmed Saturday is ok..what do I do?? go ahead with the party excluding 1 child or keep it to Sunday and all get wet??

Please help, in these situations I need Mumsnet wisdom!!!

change it, won't be fun in the rain

I’d go with Sat, otherwise whole thing will be written off. Could you send the mum a massive apology and explain and invite the missing child for a sleepover or cinema trip or something to make up for it?

I would go with Saturday. I’d just explain to the mum - wouldn’t give her a massive apology as I don’t think it’s necessary. If it’s that important to her for her child to attend then she’d cancel his Saturday plans.

thank you for your replies, I struggle with social stuff at the best of times but push myself for the sake of DS. Anything complicated I find a minefield, so I just need to know whats 'normal'. Thanks!!

Depends where you are. If you were in my country people would think it very strange to be bothered by the weather. 'There's not such thing as bad weather, just bad clothing' is the mantra here.

If it’s that important to her for her child to attend then she’d cancel his Saturday plans

@ariamontgomery it may not be possible for the other family to change their plans

OP - I would probably stick with Sunday and tell everyone to wear waterproofs. But if you do reschedule for Saturday, then I would still invite the other child to come over on Sunday, and do something nice with them instead eg cinema / soft play / trampoline park

We are in italy and there isn't really the same culture of 'just getting on with it' when it rains....Also in southern italy, at this time of year,
when it rains it rains!

I would switch to Saturday, but have the other child round on Sunday.

I’d go with Saturday but invite the one that can’t make it to do something on another day .

I'd also move the party but have the other child over on the Sunday at the arranged time and have tea and another birthday cake!

yes, have it on the better day - they'll probably turn up anyway.

how lovely living in southern Italy

I'd switch to Saturday. Went on (school) trip to Southern Italy in autumn one year. The rain was unbelievable!

Well.your not excluding one child ,the child has been invited if they can't make the change in date it's just one of those things

I'd swap to Saturday & make the time up with the one who can't make it. Do something with him then so he's not left out?

Yes swap. Italians don’t deal well in the rain - know this from experience!

When you say all but one confirmed, is it that the mother didn't get back to you, or that she said it didn't suit?

Yes swap.

Deffo swap and let the mum know her ds is welcome if their plans change and make plans for a play date on the Sunday. If he ends up coming to the Saturday party, all fine, if not, then you have the play date on Sunday to go to the cinema / bowling etc.

juells : all confirmed to say the change of day was fine the other parent replied to say absolutely no way could they make it on the other day

Ah. Then a play-date for that child, I suppose?

I'd go with the change of day and do a party bag for the child that couldn't make the new day and maybe do a play date to make up for it at another time?
(Well done on pushing yourself to organise this despite your own feelings on social events)
xxx