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AIBU?

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Neighbours late night visits

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Thankfuckitsfriday1 · 18/09/2019 22:59

Not a sexual thing as far as I can tell but my next door neighbour has visitors every night at around 11pm.. The issue is as we live in bungalows our door are literally opposite and they chat outside and sometimes slam their car doors and wake our son.

But of back story.. We had different neighbours who had 2 kids and one day about 9 months ago up and left with just a few bags and bin lingers full of stuff. No furniture and no warning.. Looks like they left in a hurry and these new neighbours moved in that day. We went through the same estate agents as they rent through the checks were insanely vigorous so I'm not even sure they are meant to be there..

They don't speak much English. The man speaks well enough but the lady none. This is not an issue and they are lovely, recently had a baby a month ago and I brought them flowers ect.

But I just dont understand the visitz? Is it a cultural or religious thing? Its normally a couple of men who get out, chat, go in the house for 10 minutes and leave... Every night. A few times they've dropped kids off or picked them but that's rare.

Im such a nosy and curious person so it's bugging me! Plus it's no ideal it wakes my son up as once he's awake that's it he's up for hours...

Aibu to ask him to keep it down or what they are doing?

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emojisarentwords · 18/09/2019 23:24

YABVU to ask them what they're doing, as it's none of your business. YANBU to consider asking them to keep the noise down as it's waking your son up. What culture and/or religion do they belong to?

Shortfeet · 18/09/2019 23:28

No one should make noise after about 9 pm. Ask them to keep the noise down

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Thankfuckitsfriday1 · 19/09/2019 00:04

I don't actually know, I thought it rude to ask. I know they are from Turkey as the lady is back visiting with her baby atm.

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Dollymixture22 · 19/09/2019 00:05

Drop round and explain the noise is a problem. Hopefully they will understand - most people are reasonable

Katzia · 19/09/2019 00:27

Shortfeet, its perfectly legal to make noise up to 11pm at night. That is the cut off point for most councils and for most tenancy agreements.

spanglydangly · 19/09/2019 06:48

Why don't you just ask them to keep the noise down?

Not sure why the checks being stringent means they would've failed or the relevance of the woman not speaking English? Did the checks include a test for that?

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Thankfuckitsfriday1 · 19/09/2019 13:55

Not at all. I meant our checks took 3.5 weeks and the other family moved in a hurry and they loved in the same day. It seemed very odd is all.

I've also never heard of them transferring tnenacy without giving the proper 1 months notice and advertising the property again

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spanglydangly · 19/09/2019 14:37

@Thankfuckitsfriday1 how do you know that checks weren't being carried out for the month prior to them moving in?

Jesaminecollins · 19/09/2019 14:40

@Thankfuckitsfriday1

Could they be drug dealers?

MrsMaiselsMuff · 19/09/2019 14:47

It could be people finishing work at that time and dropping off takings?

Expressedways · 19/09/2019 14:51

Go round and speak to the man (if the lady doesn’t speak English) and ask them politely if they can ask their guests to be quiet when they’re leaving as it’s late and it’s waking your son. Forget the rest of it like where they’re from, how quickly they moved in and what they’re doing as it really isn’t any of your business.

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong · 19/09/2019 14:53

Could be anything. Maybe they run a business (restaurant?) and the men are dropping off keys or something after the evening shift so that your NDN can open up in the morning? I would have a polite word and ask if they would mind chatting indoors later in the evening and not slamming doors so as not to waken your child. If you approach in a friendly manner then hopefully they will be fine with it.

Walnutwhipster · 19/09/2019 14:55

99% of that is none of your business.

TheQueef · 19/09/2019 14:58

Restaurant workers.
Stop nebbing

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Thankfuckitsfriday1 · 19/09/2019 15:13

Okay ill mind my own business 😂 and if. It keeps up I'll ask them to please keep it down.

(and he doesn't work at the moment, he said he's doing his dissertation.)

Thanks all will mind my own big noses business

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shearwater · 19/09/2019 15:15

Just ask them to keep the noise down.

spanglydangly · 19/09/2019 15:57

@Thankfuckitsfriday1 you seem incredibly nosy! You seem to have a lot of over bearing interest in your neighbour, I'm glad I'm not your neighbour

He may not be working as he's doing his dissertation but doesn't mean he doesn't have people working for him!

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Thankfuckitsfriday1 · 19/09/2019 17:53

Okay well I just opened my door and they left a card... They have left and gone back to Turkey (I saw him go out earlier wiht nothing more then a rucksack) but I saw someone in their back garden so went to ask what's going on and he said they have gone and he live there now as our neighbour, he is from Turkey too.

What is going on!? And the reason j don't think the estate agents know about this is because we dealt with them and they were very stringent on end of tenancy cleaning, fees, checks, referrals and we had to use 2 gaurentors.

Anyway thought I'd update.. Looks like I have a new neighbour!

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Thankfuckitsfriday1 · 19/09/2019 17:55

Spangly... I am nosy and overly curious but very polite, havnt complained about them to their estate agents about the many bonfires they have while I have washing on the line during the day.. And again I bought flowers when they had their baby and we have chats every now and then. I'm curious... I'm not a bad or intrusive neighbour.

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alexdgr8 · 19/09/2019 18:09

could it be sub-letting, maybe you could have a discreet word with the letting agent, just to check eg that non-English speaking woman knows about how electric trip-switch, location of water stop-cock etc.
at least if all these men are coming out after 10 mins it's unlikely to be an illegal HMO with multiple mattresses on every floor... and 30 people hot-bedding.

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