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To not take tomorrow off work?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 21:28

DS fell on monday night and banged his face. He has some cuts because he was wearing glasses but other than that was okay. He was tended to by a bunch of first aiders and then we took him home. Tuesday he got up, said he was fine and went to school but came home saying he felt a bit sick and dizzy. He has said the same tonight, that he has been feeling sick on and off all day. He has also gone off his food.
MIL wanted us to take him to A&E but we rang NHS direct instead who have said it is normal and could last a few weeks. MIL has agreed to have him tomorrow so he can get some rest because I really need to go into work.
Now I feel like a bad mum though for not prioritising my son over work. If no one else could have him I would consider not going in but I am a teacher at a private company and my boss (and her boss) is off which means there is noone to cover and no one to find cover. I have classes 9-10, 1-2pm, a meeting 12-12.30 and a class 3.30-4.30. I could cancel the last one but not the others without causing disruption to their shedules.
In these circumstances, would you think me a bad parent for not taking the day off? Also I am thinking of trying to get him a GP appointment tomorrow between my classes but not sure if there is much point when NHS direct said it is normal? Would you try and get him an appointment?

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Orchidflower1 · 18/09/2019 21:33

You’re not being a bad mum- if nobody could have him then that’s different.

Maybe try for the gp for the end of your working day then if the appointment is running late you then won’t be late too.

Mummyshark2018 · 18/09/2019 21:34

I would take him to gp. Sounds like he might have had a concussion which should be documented as it could impact on future health and education support.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 18/09/2019 21:36

How old is he?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 21:52

He is 7.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 21:53

Orchid, I was thinking that but the receptionists get really arsey with me when I cannot do the time they suggest.

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ooooohbetty · 18/09/2019 21:54

You're being a working mum. Not a bad mum. He'll be fine with his grandma. Don't be so hard on yourself.

CoffeeNeeded2019 · 18/09/2019 21:57

Don’t feel bad, you’re not leaving him home alone, he’ll be with his grandma. I would get him a gp appt though- just ignore the receptionist!

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 21:59

Thanks ladies. I think I will cancel my last class so that I can care for him late afternoon. It will make me feel less crap as a parent.

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ASandwichNamedKevin · 18/09/2019 22:01

You're not being a bad mum at all. You have sorted childcare with someone who loves him and you will be out earning so he has food, clothes, place to live etc.

Does he have a dad? If yes would he be thinking he's a bad dad for being at work tomorrow?

Leeds2 · 18/09/2019 22:04

Could MIL take him to the GP?

SpaceDinosaur · 18/09/2019 22:05

Of the receptionist wants to get arsey then let them. They are a receptionist for a GP, not protecting nuclear codes.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 22:07

His dad doesn’t feel guilty at all. It wouldn’t occur to him to take the day off when his mum doesn’t work and is so willing to have him.

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ASandwichNamedKevin · 18/09/2019 22:08

I wouldn't cancel your last class when there is no cover unless there is actually some further issue that crops up
You could always talk to him after 2pm and see how he's doing and maybe make plans for a nice dinner afterwards.

If you're worried about medical situation then by all means seek further advice.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 22:10

Leeds yes she could and probably would as she took him to the opticians to replace his glasses after school today. She has a tendency to exaggerate though so he would probably end up in A&E based on her description 😂

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Halo1234 · 18/09/2019 22:12

He will be well looked after with his gran. You sound a lovely mum. U are going to work to provide for him. U are hardly leaving him for a party (not that that's wrong either but hopefully u know what I mean). Hope he is ok. I dont think u should have any guilt at all.

GreenTulips · 18/09/2019 22:12

He’ll be spoilt by grandma and many 7 year olds aren’t much bother anyway. I’ve had my nephews when mums working and we play and bake cakes all day, bit of TV and a few games! Grandmas rock!

Grainedmonkey · 18/09/2019 22:12

He will be absolutely fine with his Grandma OP, don't feel bad

ozymandiusking · 18/09/2019 22:13

I think he should have been taken to A and E as soon as he was sick and dizzy. And I am slightly surprise at NHS direct for not saying that.
Whenever a patient has a head injury, they always say, "any signs of sickness or dizzyness, come back."
Gte his Grandma to take him if you can't leave school.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 22:21

Thanks ladies.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 22:25

ozymandiusking - this time last year we did take him to a&e for a head injury as was sick shortly after and sleepy. They said it was okay to feel sick, but a concern if they are sick.
He hasn’t been sick and didn’t complain of dizziness for 24 hours after the accident. He hit his face not his head and was fine and not showing any condemning symptoms.

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Butterfly84 · 18/09/2019 22:27

No way are you being a bad mum OP.

Your son's grandma is there to look after him and probably spoil him. Don't worry. It's up to you whether you cancel your last lesson but either way, you are not a bad mum.

Hope your DS is feeling better soon.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 18/09/2019 22:32

Thank you butterfly.

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Italiangreyhound · 18/09/2019 22:33

Hope things go OK tomorrow, I would take him to the GP if you are worried. you may not get an immediate appointment so end of day sounds OK.

LL83 · 18/09/2019 22:53

He will be well looked after by gran. Sounds like in this case your work needs you more. Don't feel bad.

AnyOldPrion · 18/09/2019 23:04

He’ll have a lovely day being spoiled. Ask MIL to ring if she’s worried, then go to work. It’s fine, you’re not a bad mum.