To think that my DH or DD could at least read my WhatsApp? ?

[drivinmecrazy]

I'm here in spain looking after my mum following some pretty grueling surgeries.
I've been out here for almost 4 months now, away from my own family in UK.
The last few days have been horrific trying to get my mum's pain Meds sorted, dealing with what would be an emotional situation in a foreign language and largely alone.
I have two DD's aged 14 & 18. My younger DD was withe me til a few weeks ago when she had to get back to school.
My eldest has been coming and going over the summer and is now getting ready to go to uni on Sunday.
My DH has been in uk working apart from a few weeks here.
I'm heading back to UK for a few days (literally Friday night to Monday morning) so I can settle DD1 into uni. It's breaking my heart I haven't been able to be there for her but I figured her dad would step up, after all she has two parents!
Any way, last couple of days have been shite and crap and everything in between.
DH never opens or answers calls, DD1 does if she feels like it.
Neither will pick up my callstreet today. I speak to my youngest all the time and to my shame I've just burst into tears on the phone to her.
Is it that unreasonable to ask for a kind word or even a little message from DH and DD1?

I know I'm not there for DD1 at the moment and that's absolutely killing me but I'm so torn. There's only one of me and I can't be there right now.
Don't know what I'm trying to say, just rambling and feeling pretty abandoned by them right now. I've never not answered a call or ignored a message particularly when I know they need me

Oh god, I apologise for my ramblings but I'm feeling particularly let down and abandoned, useless and negligent.

Oh you poor thing
I’m in a slightly similar situation- sick dog, complicated weekend plans and my sources of support and overwhelmed and stressed by other things.
Pre uni plans are unpredictable anyway- she might well be like most dcs and wave you off with barely a backwards glance. Is there any chance of your mum coming home?

And I made to say barely similar situation. Not suggesting your lovely mum is anything like a sick dog, but I recognise that lonely juggling when everyone else is stressed.

But that's the point, don't think anyone else is stressed because I've bent over backwards, sideways and every way possible to make sure they're not.
The moment i show any vulnerability they both run for the hills.
Wish I could turn on the 'I don't give a shit' gene and find a desert island!!

I think you need to make it crystal clear to them that you're disappointed in their lack of care.

And I say this as someone who struggles articulating my emotions and therefore often come across as rather unfeeling.

That’s really tough. As @CheshireChat says make your disappointment clear.
Sometimes you just have to lose your shit.