To not want DH going through my stuff?

[Drinkandknowthings]

I lost a purse today (well I noticed it missing today). There’s nothing hugely important in it, it’s just inconvenient.

I mentioned it to DH and he’s started going through my stuff to help me find it but I don’t want him to. I have nothing to hide but it’s making me uncomfortable.

But I asked him to stop and he got all offended and accused me of having something to hide.

AIBU?

YABU he was trying to help.

If you're annoyed because he's making a mess that's different from being annoyed about him going through your stuff.

My DP won't even look in my bag or purse even when I've asked them to (see if I have change etc), brings it over to me. Says it doesn't feel right going through a lady's bag.

I would t want my DH to go through my stuff either tbh.
Not my handbag certainly or the drawer in my bedside table.

Just as I don’t though his pa jets in his coat etc... either.

That would annoy me too

I don't like it either and also don't have anything to hide.

Thus bugs me when my hubby does it and says the same thing what are you hiding. Think it bothers me as I think by saying it he has a guilty conscience. I have nothing to hide that don’t like mess

Makes you uncomfortable? You sound quite bizarre

Yes that's weird, he was helping you look because you just said you couldn't find something. That's a normal thing to do.

Making a mess of it - that is unacceptable.

Did either of you find the purse? I don't know that I understand the tone of this thread

I was brought up not to go into other people's personal space( drawers, bags etc). So was hubby. He never goes in my handbag, even if I say" its in my bag", he'll bring bag to me to give it to me. He was brought up never to go into a lady's bag. Basic courtesy.

We have this regularly in our house where DH loses something and stomps about dramatically because its 'lost forever' only for me to have a quick rummage where he's already looked and find whatever it is. He objects to me looking because I'm moving things and he's already checked but I get sick of the drama if I can find it in seconds. Last time I stopped and refused to help if he didnt want me to look. 10 mins later and he came back and thought it might be a good idea if I checked after all.....

I wouldn’t like that....

I know the cleaner goes through our cupboards, I feel weird about my partner unpacking my things that I’ve shoved in boxes for some reason 📦

More of the “why have you kept this?” And any possible judgements.