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My friend is being abused by his on/off girlfriend, emotionally and physically. She admits to slapping him and says she wants to stop but is refusing any help and is making no effort to stop.
She is very argumentative and creates arguments for attention. For example, he had a few drinks with his mates and he invited her to come along. She started shouting at him saying that he should know she has no money so why invite her, he makes her feel poor on purpose etc. The next time he went out, he didnt invite her. She found out through Facebook that he went out, she went ballistic at him for not inviting her. Saying to him that even though she has no money, an invitation would be nice to know she is thought of.
When they're arguing on the phone, I have witnessed her smiling because she is getting the attention she wants. The constant arguments has made him depressed.
The other day they broke up. She sent him pictures of scratches on her arm and said 'I'm self harming now, are you happy?'. She also said shes going to self harm again if he doesn't get back with her.
Me and another friend spent ages trying to convince him to block her on snapchat and Facebook and her home phone number. There was constant phone calls and messages, she was really harassing him! She then went on to message his mum to speak to him, messaged his brother and his best friend too. She threatened to show up at his door. She then finally messaged him on instagram. It turns out they're just friends now and hes unblocked her on everything. I know what shes like, I went to school with her, she wont give up until they're back together.
I'm concerned for my friends mental health, hes already admitted to being depressed because of it all. He is very down and upset and she always wins when it comes to situations like this.
Is there a way I can help him get out this relationship? He wants to get out of it but said hes beyond guilty when she talks about the self harming the breakup has caused. I need him to see the light but I dont know how.
Thank you in advance for any advice given.