Hi, am new to this and would appreciate the viewpoint of others (sometimes easier than speaking to people you know). I have 12 week old twins and since their birth I feel my husband & others have behaved badly towards me. These are my first. Husband has 2 daughters in their 20s from his first marriage. They have a teenage half sister as their mum had remarried before I met their father. I had a c section and twin 2 was in special care for a while. I was in hospital for a week with twin 1. His family contacted him about visiting me. I told him their visits were too much but he continued to arrange for them to visit and I also told them when they visited. His dad would repeatedly tell me my stomach was still fat. Both he and his wife would make comments about my thighs and general weight throughout the pregnancy. I then went home with twin 1. The house was in a state and I found messages husband had sent to his friends joking about the washing up he'd left for me. When I asked him to drive me to hospital to visit twin 2 he would swear at me and be moody, often only allowing me 30 mins visit. The last visit was cut short as he had promised to take pics at a party for his daughters half sister. I have since seen messages from his daughters, parents and ex in laws reminding him to do this. Bearing in mind our situation I was angry he had done this and that they had asked and then reminded him. I have since found out that his daughters have set up a WhatsApp group to share pics of the twins with their half sister and my husband. I said I felt left out and I was told I was being stupid. My husband did very little to help me around the house or with the twins. He would often show me exercise programmes that I should be doing. When I reminded him of my c section he would roll his eyes or get angry. He refused to go to or take me to the shop to get food and nappies and I had to drive myself after two weeks. He wouldn't even help me unload when I got back. I have lost a bit of baby weight (some still there) so his parents call me fat anymore so they have now taken to callong my twins fat. I have told them not to but they continue. They also maintained a relationship with the ex and her family. They expect me to allow my twins to be part of that family and call them aunts ans uncles even though I have had nothing to do with them for the 12 years I've been with my husband. My husband also thinks I should do this - he has had almost no contact with them in this time. I feel he is doing this to please his parents. He has now taken to criticising me on a daily basis even if its about the type of bottle lid I use and being aggressive in his tone with me. I was wondering whether anyone else has been in this situation and what advice you could give. I have tried talking to him but he either tells me to let things go or that I am mental. I am exhausted by his behaviour more than looking after my twins. Even if someone thinks my reactions are hormonal any advice how to deal with that aspect would be appreciated.