I do think that legitimate health concerns cause me anxiety which I actively manage, but I am utterly fed up with being told I'm "just being anxious" or worse "a hypochondriac" about diagnosed or likely to be diagnosed conditions.
My DC has a congenital condition which requires invasive treatment. I'm so happy to say we're confident it will all be a success but there are decisions to make and lots to be aware of. I knew there might be a problem in pregnancy - my consultants told me so but friends and family said it was simply common to be anxious in pregnancy. I knew when my baby was born that something wasn't right and I was asked "first baby?" with head tilt and later "dr google?" even though it turned out that I'd correctly diagnosed a specific rare condition.
My husband is quite likely to have a separate condition which can be tested for and drs have said we might consider IVF PGD should he test positive and we choose to have another DC but he doesn't want to worry "about all that stuff" and says that I'm just over worrying when actually I just want to discuss it together properly to make an informed choice.
I know everyone is probably trying to help and have best intentions in implying that there's nothing to worry about but actually there is and all I want is for someone to listen and understand. Then it would actually be much easier for me to put it aside and worry less. Does that make sense? My DH I understand a bit to a point because he'd prefer to be blissfully unaware and I support him in that as we all have our own needs. I just want someone to talk to I guess and then I'll move onwards and upwards. I feel so alone with the responsibility and worry of everything.