Ghosted by family members

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If a family member was active on social media but started ignoring your posts would it be unreasonable to feel hurt?

I share the odd picture and successes/achievements of my children on social media mainly so long distance family and friends can see.

This particular family member seems to ignore everything like it's not happening. I thought they cared about my children but seemingly not! Old school friends are more interested than they are. In the past this has always been a welcome way of sharing updates with plenty of acknowledgement etc.

Recently they have post/shared memes about stuff like being fake or people not caring. Ironically the 'fake' post came a couple of hours after posting a heavily filtered selfie. They have the time to comment on others posts about pets/animals and the like bit not their own flesh and blood! It's like I've been ghosted.

I do comment on some of their posts, words of encouragement etc but not everything. Some are not my cup of tea, like/share to save a dog or political etc.

I've sent text updates but there is little if any acknowledgement. Main responses are focussed around them. I try to make my updates rounded ask about them etc too.

I suppose I need to come straight out with it and ask if there's a problem but I wonder first if I'm being overly sensitive!

If a family member was active on social media but started ignoring your posts would it be unreasonable to feel hurt?

Yes, YABU.

Not everyone spends ages scrolling through their news feeds looking for your specific posts. Facebook curates what everyone sees. They probably don't see everything you post anyway and Facebook likes/comments aren't a measure of the relationship you have with someone unless you are about 13. Not everyone is that arsed about Facebook in the first place. Sounds like they're a casual Facebook user while you use it for family stuff.

It sounds like you use Facebook very differently. It also sounds like you don't actually like them very much anyway as a person, as your comments about their selfies and their posts are quite sneery, so perhaps they've picked up on that in previous interactions with you.

I love my sister dearly, but we barely communicate on Facebook and I don't really notice if she doesn't like/comment on posts. It's not that big a deal. It's not real life.

It's also not 'ghosting'. You are still exchanging texts, they haven't blocked you or anything.

I agree with dolly - my first thought was that FB heavily filters what people see on their newsfeeds. I've missed all sorts of important updates from friends (eg going into hospital for weeks sort of thing) so don't necessarily jump to any conclusions. If you have things that you really want your relative to see, you could send it to them directly?

I often post updates (I use fb as my diary), but don’t look through my newsfeed. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Also if you’re constantly posting photos and updates of your kids, most people would find that quite boring.

Not everyone likes liking other peoples posts all the time. I post some things, but I seldom 'like' anyone elses pics. Facebook is just not a thing for everyone. And as someone else said, people get bored of other peoples kids.

Do you share anything that might be a bit controversial? Might they have unfollowed you so you don't show up on their newsfeed? I've unfollowed my mother because of her constant sharing of horrible animal abuse type posts. Consequently I don't see any of her normal posts either unless I actively check her timeline.

They might have 'snoozed' you because they are bored of what you post? YABU to be hurt though, Facebook isn't real life. Why not call them and catch up like proper people?