To not iron his shirts?

[popcorn1574]

My husband is currently throwing a tantrum because I won't iron his shirts. He's spent the last two hours playing xbox with his friends, and he's just come off and gone ballistic because I haven't done it.

I was in bed trying to sleep, he came in, put the light on bright and threw the covers off me, shouting at me to iron a shirt for him for tomorrow. I said no, why should I after he's spent the last couple of hours wasting time?

He's now saying he's not going to let me go to sleep until I do it, and he's going to let the air out of my tyres so I can't get to work tomorrow if I don't do it. I am feeling hopeless and like I'll have to give in.

If he let's down your tyres if be launching his xbox out the window... What an utter dick!!!!

I've had 2 husbands. Never ironed a shirt for either of them! Both were/are quite capable of doing it themselves!

YADNBU.

wait until he goes to the loo, grab your keys and get in the car and drive to a friends or family member.

Blimey. He sounds nice.

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Send him packing with the Xbox & iron.

He sounds horrible OP, don’t do it

That isn't normal behaviour OP. It's abusive, and I don't throw that word around lightly. My only advice is LTB. You're not his servant. He has no right to demand you do anything for him.

Yanbu he is abusive!

I iron my Oh's shirts because I like ironing shirts. My choice. Your oh sounds dangerous. Wouldn't often say this but Lbt.

Does he iron your work clothes?

Domestic terrorism. If you get up, let it be to pack your important documents, some clothes, and leave.

If he so much as lays a finger on you, call 999. Or if he frightens you, dial it anyway, don't wait for violence.

Is this wildly out of character for him? Get yourself safe, OP.

Seriously? He’s a c###

He is abusive. Not letting somebody sleep is akin to torture and he is trying to threat and belittle you with the tyres. A loving partner would not behave like that.

You need to seriously think about leaving him because if he can act so awfully towards you about something as small as ironed shirts it’s a huge red flag and warning as to how he will react when you face real problems. My advice would be to run and not look back.

That is appalling. Does this prince among men have any good points? Seriously, that is not how normal relationships work.

Burn them on purpose or rub chilli powder on the collar.... Horrible controlling man

Well isn't he just an abusive little prick. That iron would end up at his head. I'd make sure the iron was heated up first though because I'm nice like that.

Fucking dickhead, smash his Xbox up with the bloody iron. Seriously !!

Bloody hell. Abusive

You need to leave

Personally i'd leave him.

Iron his face with it turned on cotton setting

OP please can you let us know if you are okay? I’m worried this abusive man could turn violent. If you have any fear of this whatsoever then please get in your car and leave. With the kids if you have any.

Thank you everyone. Yes I'm ok. He eventually went off in a strop and left me alone for the rest of the night.

Im glad you're ok.

So what now popcorn?
Have you realised you are in an abusive relationship yet? It took me ages to accept what I was being told on a thread some years ago. I denied it vehemently and had to suffer some more before I accepted it.

I and the children got out and are living a much happier safer life now. You can too.

You have a right to be treated respectfully, your dh doesn't treat you with respect. You deserve better. When you're ready, mn will help.you get out.

If this is true then you need to ltb, or at least get some ground rules straight. Any ironing you ever do for him is done as a favour, not his by right. He's a bully and his behaviour is appalling. All favours stop now.

Hi Popcorn . Glad you are ok. What are you going to do?. Was this an isolated incident? My DP tells anybody who will listen that I don't iron for him ( gave up when he complained about a shirt) Most people ask him if he is living in the fifties !