Husband hiding empty alcohol cans

[CharlieSon]

Just that really. Insists there is no drinking problem but I regularly find empty beer cans and bottles under the bed, in cupboards, behind tv unit etc. He goes to bed much later than me as works shifts. It has been an issue for years but thought it was over for a while. Our first baby is due in a few weeks and I found stashes of empties (new ones) today. I want to throw him out - AIBU?

I could've written this. My ex did exactly the same. Cans hidden everywhere.

He was drinking on the night our baby arrived and it got worse with the stress of a new born.

We split up. My child is 5. He's still drinking every night.

And still doesn't have a drink problem 🙄

Tackle it vigorously and quickly. He may be able to turn this around. My ex did this and I was too meek to challenge him. He lost his job and ended up with alcohol related dementia

@Daffodildainty that’s so sad. But it’s NOT up to the OP to challenge this. A person with an alcohol problem will only be able to change if THEY want to change. Your ex didn’t suffer because you were meek but because of his choices. That’s horrid. But it’s not your fault.

Yes he has a drink problem. Yes he’s an alcoholic

It’s essy for people to say ltb. Not so easy in principle

Till they admit they have a problem this will never chnage nor go away :(

My dh had a drink problem. He was an alcoholic. He hid drinks and drank vodka as ‘doesn’t smell’ it does

Sad to say he got detoxed after a fit where he was trying to cut down

6mths later back to drinking and due to alcohol and depression he killed his self

It’s a vicious disease drinking and sadly not Much help out there till they want and accept help

I agree he needs to go. You and your child deserve better. It's a small possibility that being thrown out may be the shock he needs to change his behaviour, though probably not. Poor you.

Tell him you don't trust him enough to be sober when you go into labour, or to look after a newborn baby when he can't control his drinking.

Ask him to leave until he gets the help he needs.
If he still insists he doesn't have a problem, let your midwife know because you'll need to get something put in place so he doesn't get unsupervised contact of the baby.