To feel miffed at not being invited

[Parasol55]

I’ll keep it brief! Where I work there are about 5 of us. I and one other work part time, the other 3 work still part time but closer to a full week. We occasionally do nights out, etc. I’ve recently been doing many extra shifts to help out (gladly) - although it is inconvenient for me I’ve been happy to pitch in. Anyway, I realised the other week the 3 of them have arranged a night out and I haven’t been invited (nor has the other part timer). I might well have not gone along on the night out even if I had been, but it would have been nice to be included. Am I being very petty and precious and to feel a bit miffed at not being invited along?

I'd be a bit unimpressed at being left out, so would feel the same way. But now you know how they view the relationship so you can respond accordingly.

"Am I being very petty and precious and to feel a bit miffed at not being invited along"

Yes you are. They might be friends and not just work colleagues.

If it was just you, then you wouldn't be, but two of you aren't invited. Or rather it's just the three of them who want a night out together.

You're allowed to pick your mates.

You're allowed to be miffed - but - they're not doing anything wrong.

You're not the only one not invited - and are you actually saying they're not allowed to organise a night out just the three of them, ever?

As long as there are other nights where it's all of you, they are allowed to have nights out just them, too.

You are allowed to be miffed, absolutely.

But now you know how the relationship stands from their point of view, and you can adjust your expectations accordingly.

Been there op. Worked in an office and once they were all planning the night out around me. It was a horrible atmosphere and I managed to get out quite quickly. To this day I don’t know what I did to be son hated. If you didn’t make a good first impression with the alpa female in the office that was it